Men- can you really only be "just friends" with an attractive woman?

[Amberlilli]

Honestly, can a man really only be friends with a woman and not have one tiny sexual thought/fantasy?

Fostermum,
Do you know who she is?

no i dont know who she is, i dont mind in fact i wish he would go off with her, he talks to her on line i think they met on noddingdog moterbike site

hes decided he doesnt like children only moterbikes,and his posh friends im not as posh as he would like me to be so he can leave for all i care

I'm sorry Fostermum.
Silly question I know but are you a fostermum?
Going off the subject I know

yes i am lol

Has he been open about this 'relationship'?
About the content of the e-mails?

no i sneaked a look when he went out the room, he closes down if hes on it and i walk in, the phone he left it here one day by mistake turned on so i had a nosey,he doesnt mention it unless i do then he gets angry and walks out

is the computer password protected?

his account is yes

I wonder how many marriages have been wrecked by the opportunities the internet gives us?

if i could find anything definate i could say right enough out but its all plausable,nothing in emails that suggest anything just the amount of them same as the calls on mobile ect,just a hunch really but need proof

Two separate issues here. Yes, I do think that a man can be friends with a woman (attractive or otherwise). However, I do not really think being friends with an ex is good. Passing acquaintances is fine & if children are involved obviously there will be contact. However, more than that is dangerous - I think!

Only just seen this thread and not actually read much but have to say NO, and if they're being honest pratically all people would agree. I think even if you don't find people partically attractive straight away if you get too close and really like their company it can turn into something else even if you didn't want it to. I think you just should'nt get too close to people like spending too much time with people etc it can go the other way too, whats the saying 'familiarity breeds contempt' (spelling may not be perfect but you know the one!)

i disagree. i really do. not everyone is that weak. i'm certainly not. i think it takes a very weak person to fall into this trap.

Daddycool....have a look at 'Help - Am I being stupid'....she's asking for the male perspective.

I have no idea if my DP has sexual fantasies about some of his female friends, but I know he IS just friends with them.

I'm in touch with quite a few exes and there's nothing in it at all.

I agree with Daddycool. We're not all dogs on heat, you know.

Of course men can be just friends with an attractive woman. You can't tar every man with the same brush.

I have/had loads of male friends but often whn they meet women they are no longer allowed to be my friend.