marriage on the rocks... in laws not helping....feel like I just want to call it a day.

[fluxy3]

Long story.... going to relate to try and solve problems in our marriage... in laws (esp. mil) not helping the situation and its causing more problems with me and the H.
Feel very isolated and alone.. H trying to be supportive, but he's had enough too... just got back from lovely weekend away, where I felt happy and free from the usual crap thats going on.
I'm not sure that I can be bothered any longer to fight all this, 3 dc's to consider, but just feel as though I want to get out of this unhappy marriage.
Told H I felt like leaving ( not the first time...) he just said if you want to go then, just go.....
Any one else been through this? and how did you deal with it/solve it/walk away?
Just can't think right, every time I get to feel OK, it just seems to go all wrong again.

You don't say what the problems in your marriage are. Do you think if these problems were resolved then you'd want to make a go of your marriage?

When you told your husband that you felt like leaving did you mean it or were you hoping to get some sort of response from him?

If you felt happy when you went away what was it that made you happy? Was it being away from your home? If it was then maybe a move would help. Was it spending time with your husband and children as a family group? if so then maybe more time together would help.

I don't have any experience of relate but if it helps you get to the bottom of what the problem is and gets you and your husband to address the issues then it's got to be a move in the right direction.

Like Amandoh said, you don't tell us what the actual problems are - do you want to move because the ILs are too near and you want some distance from them? Where are your parents - are they near enough/nice enough for you to get some support from them (if the problems are mainly with your ILs?)

Oh no.
No advice im afraid but my mil was the bain of my life. She was the most twisted viscious old cow ive ever met and did everything possible to cause trouble and was proud of it too.

Sadly my useless fat ex was too much of a wuss to stand up to her.

With hindsight i should never have married him once i met her.
On our first meeting she openly stated that she didnt like me and probably never would.At the same time her mad little dog was perched on the back of the sofa bearing its teeth at me,, inches away from my face.Ex hubby sat gazing at her adoringly while she proceeded to insult me and her mad dog drank from my cup.

Ex always denied her insults claiming i had taken it the wrong way, but as our marriage started to go down the pan, i feel he sometimes perhaps used her to say all the things he wanted to say but was too scared too.
He never did anything to resolve the situation and activeley invited her into our marriage by discussing things with her.
" divorce by mother in law ".

H&F, your situation sounds like mine, my H couldn't stand up to his family and like you I have come to the conclusion he let them do it because it saved him having to say it to me (although he enjoyed giving me verbal abuse as well).
Fluxy - like Amandoh, can you clarify what the actual issues are? also if he's going to relate with you then at least it shows he's trying too so that must be something. If the majority of problems are being caused by the inlaws hopefully you can work with your H and relate counsellor to identify a solution towards managing these problems? It is very difficult though and feel for you