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Ettiquette on dates!

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LolaTheShowgirl · 01/02/2009 16:33

I've only just started seeing this man and he's really lovely! We've been on one date so far. Was supposed to have another on Thursday just gone but his little girl was full of a cold so I told him to stay in with her so she could get better. Now he's asked when he can see me just the two of us. I don't get paid for another 2 weeks and don't have a bean til then. If we went out, I know the man should always offer to pay. Is this the case? I think if I go out without any money and he doesn't go to pay I will be left feeling stupid but it's equally embarassing admitting I can't go out til I get paid!

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eNABlemetobebetter · 01/02/2009 17:15

Why should the man always offer to pay? Nice in theory but women are independant now and have their own cash.

Say you would love to see him but you can't afford a night out at the moment and would he like to come round for dinner (if you can afford the extra food)

I think you can't have a relationship with someone if you can't be honest with them.

lessonlearned · 01/02/2009 17:20

Did he pay on the last date?
If you want things to be equal financially, can you invite him for a cozy night in with DVD and explain this to him? He might be willing to take you on an Orange Wednesday night at the flicks - would this make you feel better about it?
It might not be a big issue to him but don't let thing's drop if you really like him or he may think you don't want to see him at all.

Aimsmum · 01/02/2009 17:43

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BitOfFun · 01/02/2009 18:11

Just tell him you're skint...I wouldn't invite him to my home before I knew him better really.

Actually, that's bollocks, I put out on our first meeting, never mind date with DP , but you know, trying to give sensible advice and all that...

lessonlearned · 01/02/2009 18:17

Lol, BoF.....

mmelody · 01/02/2009 18:28

Just tell him you are skint.. maybe go for a walk in the park and a coffee??

lessonlearned · 01/02/2009 18:35

RE BoF...
How about "I know it's my turn to pay for the night out but would you mind just settling for a shag as I'm financially embarrased?"
Just joking, Lola.....wait until you get to the 4th date for this one!

warthog · 01/02/2009 18:47

just say 'love to see you but i'm skint. so let's do something that doesn't cost anything. like go for a walk.'

please don't lie - awful when you get caught out.

BitOfFun · 01/02/2009 19:00

LL, I think being direct has its dividends

lessonlearned · 01/02/2009 19:07

You are sooo right, BoF (LL pats back pocket Asda stylee), Lol.

Original poster
LolaTheShowgirl · 01/02/2009 20:38

Thanks for your replies ladies. Very funny some of you! I just thought I would run it past you as my friend suggested I do this (go out and expect him to pay) but I was horrified. I told him I get paid in a few weeks and would he like to meet up then and he said he would love to and can't wait. Something nice to look forward to!

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lessonlearned · 01/02/2009 20:56

I hope you have a great time and do lots of texting to keep up the anticipation.

warthog · 02/02/2009 21:26

good on ya!

this expecting the other person to pay milarky is awful.

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