What do you do when your very good friend (who's kids you are god mum to) is married to a waster? I have bitten my lip for a long time about him, despite the fact that he doesn't work, lives off his wife, smokes weed all day and night long, never looks after his own kids to give his very hardworking wife a break, would smoke weed and drink Guinness and see his 3 kids go without... and is basically an immature, manipulative, lazy toerag. Raaaaaaaargh!
I am so sick of seeing her break her neck to keep their family together while he does nothing. I know it's up to her to make the decision to leave / kick him out. There is nothing I can do about it, is there? But I just feel so upset about it. She came round for dinner the other day and confided to me that she is £10k in debt, including £3k of rent arrears with the council (which is stopping her getting a much needed transfer to a bigger place) She also asked to borrow £20 until payday for food for the kids . She looked utterly humiliated and it is killing me that he stands by and lets things come to this. She knows this can't go on, but she loves him (grrrr) and I think at the back of it, she is scared of being a single mum (although she would probably be better off than she is now in every way, really).
What can I do?