Dp has rejected my beef wellington and I want to cry.

[twinsetandpearls]

I know it is pathetic.

Dp has been away for a few days and I have missed him so much.

He was due home at 8 so I had been out to buy the ingredients for his favourite meal - Beef Wellington.

I have got home to find dp had got home early meaning I could not surprise him. I was going to do nice dress, candles meal the works.

Dp has just said there is no need to bother and is now working in his office.

I would feel too! Does he realise how bad that makes you feel?

No he doesn't.

That's awful. Men just don't get it sometimes

Have some very un-mumsnet hugs

I think he thinks that he is saving me work, I dont know. I am upstairs with the dog.

I don't getvit surely he will want to eat later? Is he rejecting any food or specifically the Wellington?

I was going to post in AIBU as maybe I am being over sensitive. But as I am already feeling hurt I didnt want to rub salt in the wounds going on there.

I can't understand men sometimes.

Well, it's not pathetic of you. Actually I would feel not just bt . Perhaps you should explian to him that you wanted to do something special for him and now it feels like a rejection. It's not his fault he got home early, as he didn't know yu'd planned a surprise, but he could at least have said "How lovely, it will be just as lovely even though it's not a surprise any more"`(or words to that effect).

And YANBU (in case you were wondering!)

I have said I wanted to surprise you and he said no need.

I am a bit angry as well to be honest which is why I have walked away.

Chill out tonight (drink wine )and tomorrow have beef wellington-tonight give him a tin of ravioli .

I dont think he was being mean, like you say he was just trying to save you work.....maybe he wants your energy later .....

I have told him quite calmly that he has hurt my feelings and he shouted at me.

I am taking dd out for dinner

Ah twinny thats not fair - is he tired or does he often shout??

And he has more chance of getting a shag from next doors cat than me.

He is very ungrateful and insensitive IMO

He thinks I am oversenstive and has told me to snap out of my sulk.

The thing that has really annoyed me was when I said to dd would you like to go out for something to eat, he said I will come when a moment ago he was not hungry.

My beef wellington is fabulous.

men pah

ingrates

tell him you will snap out of your sulk when he snaps out of being a prat

you make the bw and have a special dinner with dd anyway

I might do that actually as dd really loves beef wellington and she will enjoy making it with me.

I might make it while wearing the lingerie I bought as the second part of my surprise so he can see what he is not getting.

We will be there in 30 minutes

Poor you, it sounds like he genuinely thought he was being reasonable by not putting you out and then thought you were over reacting. I do understand why you feel fed up and disappointed, I'd be the same, but to be fair - he didn't know. It's not a rejection of you, it's just that you'd built a picture of your evening in his mind and his reaction means it won't be as you imagined. He still loves you and I'm sure he'd still like to see the undies, perhaps just re-think the evening?

I knew you would love beef wellington.

He has apologised and said he would love some.

Now enjoy .

Lol at next door's poor cat!

Hope bw went ok.

Lingerie later then .

I will see if he deserves it.