unhelpful dh

[Sabbath]

Does anyone have an unhelpful dh, not housework, but with the children, doesn't want to go out as a family or seems to leave all childcare in your hands. Feel like a single parent at times anyone else in the situation?

maybe its just one of those situations for you sabbath - i personnally cant understand it - i would dump the kid on the huby and sit there and watch until he changed the nappy - but we are all different. and its also easier said than done.
14 years later i still have to pull hubby up for being selfish, i refuse to put up with it, am entitled to a good life too.
i always like the "if the situations were reversed" way of starting a conversation in my case when the kids were little it would have been
" if the situations were reversed, how would you like having no career, no prospects, how would you like feeling like your brain is turning to mush, that the most thrilling conversation is with a baby and the most intellectual argument is richard & judy on the telly. how would you feel doing a job with no thanks, no pay, no prospects for promotion - on no sleep?... now change the damn nappy or feck off you tight git"

would be something similar lol

To put it even more blunty - why not ask him how he would cope if you were run over by a bus!

sorry to post twice - but am on one ...if you know what i mean

an example of my hubby being braindead
went to lauderette as washer is broken, took a book and inbetween washing folding drying i read the book - i would rather be at home -doing other things - but it needed to be done.
i get home with masses of washing to be greeted with naff all being done in the house whilst i was away... and this comment:
"have a good time reading your book?"
a good time... a good time?
needless to say he doesnt think i have a good time at the launderette anymore
the reason it was me going to launderette - is becuase i have a car he cant drive. this presumes i will always be doing washing until we can afford a washing machine doesnt it..ohhh no it doesnt. at weekend the whole family went to the launderette - each with a bag to carry - and we went on our bikes. a family outing you know!
i wont be put in a corner!

Custardo you are fabulous!

custardo... good on you girl

I like your style custardo.

God Custardo you are fantastic!!!! Love your style. I am 'phoning the hairdresser as I type to get my hair done this weekend - something I normally squeeze into one of my precious lunch hours!

Custy, you kill me!!!!!!!!!

Custardo - can you come round and explain the situation to my dh. He thinks that I have an easy life too. He also seems to think that loading/unloading the dishwasher /washing up other bits on non-dishwasher proof things / washing /cooking / emptying the airing cupboard /bringing in dry washing are not counted as housework. So, I do no housework during the day, and I should be cleaning the bathroom while ds is having a nap, rather than sitting down myself!

On your note chinchilla, my husband recently overheard me proudly remark to a neighbour on how I had managed to get 4 loads dry on the line that day(ok, a bit of a sad statement), anyway, he deduced from this that I simply adored doing the washing, so not only is the washing not a household chore, it's my hobby!

It took him 3 weeks to realise that I was on strike and was picking out his washing from the rest of the families, before he noticed he even went out and bought himself new socks and pants when he had run out!

Chinchlla, I'm sure you are me! I've suspected it from other recent threads, but now I'm sure

Smartie,
I recently suggested to DH that, he do his own washing/ironing, he was outraged and snapped, "Don't be rediculous, if we do that we may as well, be living in different parts of the house".
Didn't quite get that !!!
Also, when friends of ours divorced,he maintained, that the real reason was, because "she" had never done his laundry, and that he had "seen it comeing", after he had been told this fact.