Please help. DH and I haven't had sex more than three times since DS2 was born a year ago, and I've been the one to initiate it every time. When I try to talk to him about it, he isn't very helpful. He says it's my fault as I go to bed much later than he does, which is true. But he doesn't ever talk about sex or try to seduce me at other times, so I'm not convinced.
I know he still wanks, as a) He got a virus on the computer after going into a dodgy porn site!; and b) I got home last night after a night out and he wasn't downstairs... He came down a minute or two later and when I said, "What were you doing?" at first he said he'd been working, but then admitted he'd actually been having a wank.
I know it's laughable, but I really don't know what to do. We've had a few problems in our relationship, and tbh I think we might be better off splitting up, but we have 2 DC. He seems weirdly reluctant to discuss any problems, preferring to keep the status quo.
What should I do? I'm reluctant to raise the topic again as it makes me feel like I'm begging him for sex. I can start going to bed at the same time as he does, but anything else? I don't fancy trying to seduce him with fancy underwear, etc. Help??