My feelings are disappearing for my DH.

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I am SAHM, have 4 dcs. 6,5,2,& 12 weeks. Just after I had my baby DH got demoted, all illegal but in these times there's little we can do. He seems quite happy being 'less important' and doing the job he used to do.
Then there's the fact that DM lived with us for a couple of months to help with the baby, she hasn't got a lot of time for DH.
So now I feel like I have less respect for DH for doing a lesser job and don't fancy him anymore (not that I've got time to!!). When he touches me I feel quite repulsed.
I want to sell our home and take action with his drop in wages, but he wants to wait and see. Part of his wage is commission relying on advertising and promotional budgets...........
Is this just a baby thing or is my relationship dying?

It sounds like you've had a lot of stress in your lives in the last few months, not surprised you are all at sea, TBH.

If I were you, I wouldn't write my relationship off yet . I think you perhaps need to sit down and have a good chat about the financial side of things, your feelings towards it and discss how best to proceed.

So your feelings for your dh are entirely dependent on his job status and financial contribution (possibly not equally)? You say yourself that the demotion was 'illegal' - so it wasn't his fault, right? Can't help but wonder what kind of feelings you had before that happened.

Are you actually worried about money? That at least is something you can sit and work out together.

No my feelings are dependent on his status, but I suppose I found his success attractive. I'm annoyed because he could have made it impossible for them to demote him and covered his arse but didn't.
I am worried about money and would rather take a step down the property ladder and consolidate than lose everything.

Do you think he might actually be relieved at the demotion?

A little bit of me thinks he might. However it does mean the money we were spending, over spending, is impossible to pay off... £40k worth of HP and loan....this would have been easily affordable to pay off short term with his previous earnings. New income is a little unknown, could be great could be halved or less.
Now I'm thinking let's move into a new build for a few years and if I'm wrong and his earnings are still great then we'll move back to something nicer. I'm looking at 4/5 bed new build so not teeny tiny.

That sounds very sensible to me. I have a horror of debt and I think it's what I would want to do. Perhpas you could agree a realistic deadline whereby if no extra income materialises you do it.

Thanks We've got a date to talk tomorrow night!