Hi. I'll try to keep this short. EXH and I split up about 2.5 years ago. Our daughter was 1.5 at the time. He decided to move 200 miles away (back to his family). I have had a new DP for 2 years (he now lives with me and my daughter). I work nearly full time and he is amazing with my daughter, she loves him and he loves her. Her actual father often doesn't ring when supposed to, comes up late for visits and when he does arrive is always looking at his watch. He goes dead on 4pm because "I don't want to drive in the dark". He never asks about parents evening, or how she is, or asks me for photos or anything. When he does take her out for the day he often doesn't feed her (!!!) and is, in short, rubbish.
Anyway, he was supposed to come up boxing day but rang and said his car was broken. He told me he got it fixed that day and he turned up at midday (!) the next day to pick her up. She was v disappointed he hadn't come Boxing Day.
Since then I have found out *through Facebook!) that he has a new girlfriend who has a 3 year old daughter. He spent Christmas day with them (he told me and my DD he was spending it on his own).
I now wonder whether the 'car breaking down' was true at all or whether it was just an excuse? Someone told me no garages would be open Boxing Day so he couldnt have had it fixed then like he said. I've asked him to tell me the name of the garage. He says he can't remember. Ive asked him to tell me roughly where it was he says he can't remember
So either his car didnt break at all and he couldnt be bothered to come up or it did break but he didnt have it fixed and drove our daughter in an unsafe car??
Am I being unreasonable to ask him to tell me the name of the garage and prove it? He says I'm being a f&&&g psycho b&*^h...
So my question is, is it right for him still to have access to her when he's so crap? Whats best for her? And how do I save her from getting hurt (emotionally) by him?
Any and all replies gratefully received. x