AIBU to text dh's sister asking he help?

[mummythebastardmousekiller]

lots of ishoos in dh's family, but his dsis2 is quite like him in temperment, plus she's just split from her dh because he was behaving like mydh iyswim

so aibu to text her asking her to speak to him? don't want to lose my dh, just the spoilt brat having a tantrum behaviour (last nigh it was because I didn't make the gravy in his approvedway)

ps not ignoring thread, just also deep cleaning

Why would you involve your husband's sister in a disagreement between you and your husband? Am I missing something, because on the face of it, it sounds barking?

it's a last ditch attempt really. he won't listen to reason. I guess I'm hoping he'll listen to her when he won't to me.

Won't involving his sister exacerbate the issue, will it not annoy him???

I dont think it would help - your husband may well be quite annoyed at you having involved his sister, and his sister may feel quite awkward about what you are asking her to do.

YABU

if she has just split from her H why would she have the time or energy to get involved with your marriage

if you can;t talk to your H and he won;t listen then bringing in a 3rd party who is not impartial is not going to help

go to relate or other counselling

Is he always like this?.

You didn't make the gravy to his liking so he goes off on one?. If someone else said that to you about their H would you actually think that is abusive behaviour part on his part?.

I'm sorry but this behaviour of his is completely unacceptable and it should not be tolerated by you.

BTW what makes you think his sister would get involved?. It sounds like she and your H (her brother) are very much alike; they both sound like they have deeply rooted problems; you mention lots of issues in his family. Problems you cannot and should not try to fix.

ah well, it was wrth a thought. I am reaching the end of my tether, am sick of being told it's acceptable to say/ do what he does because i am his wife.

You sound like you're walking on eggshells around your H. My guess is as well that he has been acting like this towards you for a long time; you may have become conditioned to accepting his behaviours.

If you have children, them seeing all this as well will do them no favours. Children learn about relationships first and foremost from their parents, what are you both teaching them here?.

Come to think of it as well what did your H learn about relationships from his parents?.

A wife deserves respect. If he is being childish, treat him like a child.

If the gravy isnt how he likes it, chuck his in the bin and tell him to make it himself.

can't comment on whether you should seek help/support/advice from sil - but don't use texts fgs. if she could be a ally it might work to get her involved but not be text. talk to her.