Sorry x post, just spotted this forum and would be interested in those who've come through situations and survived, opinions.
I'll try and keep this brief as I do go on a bit.
History, met DH when DC1 was 12 months old, had split with her father before she was born, I haven't seen or heard from him since.
Got pregnant with DC2 within 6 weeks of meeting DH, moved in together, it was all very very hard for the first year living together being pregnant etc, nearly left a few times.
Worked through that, got married had another child but again lots of difficulties in the first year of marriage.
Seemed to settle down again until I went to college and then I started to look around me and think what the hell am I doing and meeting other people (male and female).
My life is this, I live nowhere near my family now, I have no friends, no support whatsoever. Once the kids go to bed Dh sits in the kitchen on the net and I sit in the study on the net, he will make me cups of tea every couple of hours.
That's it.
Sex is apallling, it's never really worked. We just don't seem to gel.
He cannot seem to keep a thought in his head, we have the first party we have ever been invited to as a couple in a few weeks and he's lost the fucking invitation.
We've had a stupid row today because I swore whilst the children were in earshot and then I said something mean to him, he's slammed every door in the house taken the older two out for a walk, no mobile but DC1 has a party at 4, he'll forget that but be back in time for the football no doubt.
My mum says don't do anything rash just either plan your escape or keep working at it, but I'm 33 how long do I give it, at what point do you say enough ???