I asked DH if he would come and visit my 89 year old Nan with me and my 3DDs on Saturday and then go and visit my Uncle who has been quite poorly.
Bearing in mind she lives approx an hr away.
(To put you in the picture she lives at home with my 58yr old Uncle, he is at the moment in hospital recovering from - a stroke pneumonia, meningitis and they have just discovered that he has diabetes.) So basically my lovely Nan (ok yes she can be moany) has had a heck of a job this last month with my Uncle and worrying about him. Every member of the family has joined in to help get my Nan to the hosp etc. Well its my turn on Saturday and I asked my DH (who I have been married to for over 16 yrs) to come up with me.
Now it does mean as we do not have a car to fit 6 people in, I said to DH why don't you stay at my Nans, while I take Nan and 3 DDs to hosp.
He has completely gone off on one saying that I am being manipulative because I said we like doing things as a family! He can get more done at home! etc
I have in the past had a real phobia about sickness and at the moment its rife in Sch esp in DD3 class, I mentioned this to DH and he said that he would stay at home with youngest DD. I have told him that is not what I am after, but felt that if he came with me, I would feel a lot mre comfortable.
He has now gone to bed in a huff, I am now here in tears!
I do know it would be boring for him, its also boring for me and the girls, but I am thinking of my Nan and my Uncle. I didn't force my DDs in going on Saturday, they all agreed without any hesitation!
So am I being manipulative?
PS sorry this is so long, feel a bit better for getting that off my chest! (phew!)