Where do I go now?

[ebbie22]

I just really need some advice as to what to do and maybe where to go with no money and a two year old....

I dont think Its fair on anyone of us if I stay, yet dont know if im brave enough to go or If thats what I really want...I havent been married more than 18 months and have money debts that wouldnt go away even if we sold our house,I just want to be happy again and for my little girl to be happy...

ah don't worry hon, have u told him it's the little things? try saying to him I don't want much, a sheet of paper saying happy birthday, or a bar of choc when u go to fill the car up will do (just the thought iycwim).

where r u in the country? do u have many local friends you could possibly meet up with for a cuppa?/ do u have any close family?

Yeah I have a few really good mates,but everytime i talk to them i get so emotional,hence why its easer to talk here......My familly kind of know and they are close enough to go to,and could stay there but they have enough on there plate at the moment....
DH and i,spoke last night and we know things have to change,improve or we both have to make the decsion to go oour seperate ways....
He knows i like the little things but still fails to relise...

Hi Ebb. It sounds like neither of you are really ready to give up on your relationship. As others have said, the stressfull day to day stuff can really take its toll on the best of relationships, particularly if there is a little one taking all the time an attention. The debts and TTC must make life seem quite hard at times. Would you consider going to counsellor for help? Sounds like you could do with someone impartial to just work out what you want with, or to work at your relationship together with. I am fairly certain relate to a sliding scale of fees, or maybe your doctor could refer you to a counsellor, some surgeries have them attached. Hope it all works out for youX

Thank you for your advice,Your right neither of us wants to call it aday,yet we ant keep going from pillar to post waiting for the good days to return.....
Last night when we talked,we couldnt remember a happy time for us,taking aside things to do with dd,then we remember it was april last year.....Thats a bloody long time isnt it..
We have though about concelling and maybe we will give it ago but i think maybe we have now gone past that stage.....

i think counselling could be really helpful whatever the outcome; even if you do split up, it'll help you get your priorities clear in your own head, and pave the way for managing things more amicably

how do i go about booking appointments,also cab how do i go about that...wont they think its stupid..

course they won't think it's stupid eb, look in ur yellow pages, if that's no good chat a chat to ur GP to see if he can recommend a relate type thing, u're part way there if neither of u wants to give up on things.

Thanks again guys...Last night we did a pregnancy test and its positive......Talk about fate??or throwing a spanner in the works...I am going away next wk foor a long wkend with my dd to clear my head and hopefully put together all the advice i have been given....

ooh u lucky lucky thing, but if I may, can I pinch a bit of ur baby dust for all us TTC girls? if u wouldn't mind giving us a bit.

hope all goes well for you.

Of course,hear u are xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxbaby dust xxxx..I know we still have a LONG way to go but I am detimed to do what is best for ALL of us.....Thanks again xx

if you're asking about counselling it's probably best to look for counselling via Relate in your area. IIRC they have sliding scales for payment for the counselling, and if you don't have much money you don't necessary have to pay anything or only have to pay very little.

best of luck and congrats on the PG.

thanks hon! good luck with everything and let us know how u go.

I will I promise...Thanks alot,And I will try to take aboard all of your advice and make good use out of it...xxEbbie

For all these that wanted an update....
I am now nearly 5 months pregnant{20 wks}and dont think I can take anymore....
How do I go to a shelter or a lodge and will they put me and my dd up..I cant go on like this anymore,and feel that maybe my dh is going to have a break down too.....