PERSONAL SEX QUESTION

[veryembarrassedmummy]

Thanks to all who suggested how to have an orgasm- success has been achieved!
However, how many of your partners can press the right buttons? Mine just gets it all wrong and I am fed up- is it him or are all men the same- and should I instruct him or not even try??

You have to let them know I am afraid. The problem is all women are different and like a different touch so what works for you may not have been what worked for women in the past. You dont have to tell him what to do military general stylee but a nudge in the right direction, a moan or encouragement when he gets it right - all good ways to start.

I have just asked DH!!!

"I don't know, I just knew, if you made the right noises I knew it was okay, I remember sometimes you telling me off"

I am his only and he's always been pretty decent at achieving the O for me!

Too heavy handed most of the time and a bit too "proby". A well timed "ouch" usually works.

tell him, men love you to talk during sex, especially if you make it a bit dirty

Lots of gentle and lubricated (natural juices or out of a tube if necessary) touching of the clitoral area and snogging and carressing, often a few diff things at the same time.

Being relaxed is def the key, if I'm not relaxed it doesn't happen.

will go namechange back now!

VEM, I remember your thread

out of interest, how did you manage it?

there is another thread today from someone who is struggling to get that big "O"

oops, x-post

Well, since hubbs died, the only person i've been having sex with is myself , but when he was here he certainly pressed all the buttons. But it didn't just happen, i had to guide him and show him what i liked, and vice versa.

Theres a couple of ways you could play this... you could try sitting down with him and explaining to him what you like, what melts your butter... or you could show him... next time you get intimate, perhaps tell him that you want him to watch you touch yourself... that way he might get an idea.

Either way, i think the most important thing is communication... you can't expect him to just 'know' and then blame him for not knowing - you need to talk to each other.

AF- just spent time alone and tried and tried until I hit the jackpot and it got easier.

woo-hoooo

Yayyy! Good for you

I'm the last person to ask about communicating what you'd like to DH, because I'm useless in that respect. Okay, maybe a bit better than I used to be, but I find it very embarrassing and awkward to say "I prefer it when you..." or whatever. I don't tend to talk much, and it's something I'm always meaning to sort out. I'll watch this thread with interest!

Good work! I had resigned myself to a life of no orgasms till I met DH. Seems ridiculous now

OB- why? Is he the best ?

Being a newbie here, can i ask - is there a sex forum?

Yes- this is it,lol

Ah, righto

He's very.... dedicated! He feels sad if I don't have an orgasm, tbh the ones I have now are so rollicking I don't always have the energy for it.

Poor me

dee, any time you wanna talk about sex, go riiiight ahead

friday nights are good for sex chat lol