I am so cross with my DH - why does everything have to be up to me?

[TheYearOfTheCat]

My DH has been off work today. So imagine my anger, when, at 5.58pm he rings me to ask what is for dinner!! This is when I am negotiating traffic, having had to leave work early, in order to collect the DC for 6pm.

I am sooo effing cross, that he expects me to organise everything, whilst he has been sitting at home all day, and only thinks about dinner at 2 minutes to 6

This is after yesterday, when I wanted to discuss the shopping list with him, and he was 'too busy' playing with his new i-pod touch. He was so busy, he asked me to bring both DC to the supermarket as well

so what did you say???

What did you say?

He probably expects you to do it, because you always have.
Suggest you both cook from now on, work out a shift or something.

Was your answer 'whatever you have prepared. You have prepared something havent you? I'll have your bollocks for earrings if not, seeing as I've been working my arse off all day while you've been sitting on yours'

If not, it should have been!

i agree with Ruby

sorry - you need to say "DH - you have been off work today so dinner is up to you"

I agree with 2pt4kids.

See my similar thread - I SOOO know what you mean.

Well my response was similar to what 2.4kids said, only the vulgar mouthed angry wife version.

When I asked why he hadn't made dinner, he said that he couldn't find anything in the fridge - I did a shop yesterday. When pressed, he said he had been really busy (on the phone to Virgin media , then the story finally changed to my fault - he tried phoning me, but my phone was switched off.

By the time I got the kids picked up, a hastily cooked pizza from the freezer was emerging - very nutritious .

He says I have a massive attitude problem. Yep, that's right .

I've told him he will be doing all the shopping and cooking from now on. I don't think he believes me. But it's true. This Mummy has gone on strike!

I think you're gonna be feeling very hungry and the fridge really will be empty before too long...

Well I will obviously have to keep hidden rations in the fridge in the garage, and feed the DC fruit when DH isn't about. Otherwise they'll get scurvy.

That's it, keep up the SoH!

What's SoH?

Sense of humour, your last post made me laugh!

I'd have been pissed off too. Think I'd have taken the kids for a meal on the way home and let him starve!
Have to say I am impressed that he managed to find the freezer, the pizza and the oven though. My DH wouldn't have a bloody clue and as I found out a few days ago, he doesn't even know how to turn the oven on. Have spent the last few weeks cooking loads of meals for freezer as having a baby in 19 days (yes, I'm very sad for counting) and know I'll be having a CS so will be in for around 4 days. If I don't have the meals in the freezer, he and DC's will starve basically. Feel very jealous sometimes on here when I read about all those lucky women who have DH's who cook for them

Mumoverseas see my concurrent thread and start training him NOW! You don't want to end up with mental health problems after 16 years of it. Yes, it's hard in the short term, it's worth it in the end.

I soooo know where you are coming from. i did a christmas job and after the first weekend realised that I would have to leave copious instructions on when to start cooking, what to cook where to find everything. Even then I would come out of work, turn my mobile on and be barraged by messages like: You havent left any chicken in the fridge I am having to give the children fish fingers[Man looking-it was at the back of the fridge!] We dont have any bread bring some home [I keep extra bread in the freezer]. Would also usually find dinner had JUST been started when I arrived home and took ages to appear so that we were all starving and grumpy. I worked for 5 weeks and this didn't improve.