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i dont feel like it

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momov2 · 18/01/2009 17:31

me and my partner have together for eight years and have always had a brilliant relationship and a good sex life. we now have 2 daughters age 23 months and 8 months.since the birth of my second daughter i just havent felt like having sex at all with my partner.and when i do i dont enjoy it and usual fake it. i feel i am only doing it because i have to to keep him happy and i try and avoid it if i can. i dont know what it is . i blame it on being tired from looking after the kids all day but im not sure that is what it is. i dont even feel turned on by him anymore and i dont like him touching me. i know it sounds awful and i feel awful . i love him to bits and i dont want to feel like this.its really getting to me. i cant talk to him about how i feel im too ashamed. we're supposed to be getting married next year. what can i do ? xx

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sayithowitis · 18/01/2009 17:57

I wonder if you are just too tired? It's not easy having two babies to look after. They are both at very demanding ages. Does your DP help out when he is at home? Do you get any 'me'time? Does he make you feel sexy and desirable? Maybe you could suggest going on a 'date' with him? If he is understanding, perhaps if you explain the problem and tell him you want him to woo you all over again? Did you have a bad time giving birth? Could you have a fear of sex? If he loves you he will want it to be right for you too so should be prepared to help you without putting pressure on you. Sorry, i am probably not much help but you sound so worried I didn't want to not answer you. Hopefully there will be others with better advice than me soon. Good luck.

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