update on ' well the fu*%*ers done it again.

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Have finally got my internet connection back after xdh cut me off after i kicked him out.
Just wanted to say thanks to all those that helped me. I was in a bit of a state, but after a few days away, and a little bit of time im ok, surprisingly ok actaully. Im actually happier and less stressed now that he is not here now. We are trying to keep it amiciable, and he is seeing our dd regualry. Christmas was very very difficult but we got through it ok.
I know ive got a lot on my plate right now, ive got to move area again, find another new job and new childcare again, its quite exhausting thinking of it all, but if i sort one thing at a time its managable.
Im still sad for our dd, but hand on heart when shes older i can honestly tell her i tried my hardest, but i now realise that that was never going to be enough, igave that man everything, but still failed, because the problem lies with him and not me. I do actually feel sorry for him, and for any future girlfriend he may have, beaucse i know he will do exacally the same to them. Its just how he is, noone will change him.
Anyway, thanks to all of you again, esp vinegar.

DOn't know your story but well done and best of luck. Things can only get better now.

What did he do ShopTil?

Been thinking about you all Christmas and New Year. Thanks for posting your update! Good for you for getting on with your life. Your DD will understand when she's old enough, I'm sure.

Take care of yourself.

if i was clever i would do a link thing - but im not, its on the second page of the relationships topic called ' well the fucker has done it again'.

thanks pen, thanks for all your help and support too. Its still a crap situation to be in and finding a new job in the current climate is going to be the more difficult thing. But it will happen, i havent got to race ( have got about 5 to 6 months ebfore i have to move out). I acutally feel positive and am looking forward to starting all again. I think im not actually as upset as i should be becuase i didnt really love him all that much to be honest. I was doing it all for our dd. While i did sort of love him, we could never rewind the clock and undo the hurt he had caused me. I tried, and i would have carried on and been reasonably happy, but i was not going to put up with that.
So onwards and upwards... and in time who knows

Not read it yethere is the link

There should be help out there from forces groups - AFF etc. DH is army so shout if you need help finding anything out. Take care.

Hoping everything works out for you, you have done it once, you can do it again. Keep going.

Good luck.

I remember your original thread, and was wondering how you were, especially over christmas.

You sound great, and I admire your strength.

Onwards and upwards. Go girl

Hey shop... Glad you sound good. Remember, if you do need any help etc just shout - I'm good at the rules and regs thing. Hope your families offr is doing his job - if not, let me know. Chin up mate.

mouse, they are not doing their job at all - or then again maybe they are. They have offered no help other that telling me i should take him back as he doesnt seem that bad. Dh said he wasnt going to change his pcat status until the end of the 3 months cooling off, but the families officer said he would write to his unit and force him to change it as its very clear we wont reconcile. He said i shouldnt worry as if im not out my rent will be paid by my benefits. I am not intending to be on benefits. Ill be working. I told him this and it said it would be much simpler for me not to work and that i would have 3 months to move out. Ex dh is away at the momment, and we have had to lie and say we are going to go to relate when he gets back as proof that we might reconcile ( although this is just something to tell the families officer, this is no way gong to happen. I just need a bit of time to save up some money)
Its all a bit of a nightmare to be honest and im feeling quite down about it today. Ive got a bad cold, have had no sleep, dd is being a pain and i start my new job ( which i know i will be leaving before i pass through the probabion period) in a few hours. Its all quite difficult.