Hi, I was after some advice concerning my children. I am going through a divorce at the moment, however I have two children aged 11 and 5. My children see their dad every fortnight and I dont have a problem with this, however his mum and brother are a pain and my soon to be ex-husband makes a point of taking the kids round to his mum's house. My daughter has overheard them making nasty remarks and she gets upset by this, at the moment she is 11 and wants to see her dad and feels she has no choice but to see his mum plus they use emotional blackmail to make her feel guilty - its how his family seem to operate and they really never think about the effect this has on the children! Whilst I feel its necessary for children to see their father and through my solicitor contact has been arranged for one weekend every two weeks, however when can the children decide if they want to see him less? and what can I do to stop his family from winding them up and playing mind games with them?