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God, I really need some advice...

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DaddyOrChips · 08/01/2009 17:26

Have been with DH for 7 years, he has intatiable sexual appetite, but he is 7 years younger than me, hence his approach isn't the most appealing. Add to this the hurt he has caused me (I can honestly say I have behaved impeccably towards him), he has hurt me time and again, is devious and lies. For example, he got drunk before the speeches on our wedding day, was too drunk to do the first dance and stayed up with his friends until 5am on the wedding night! This and many many other things have built up and put me off of having sex.

Him being younger has in the last 4 years become a problem, his approach is annoying, I cringe when he comes near me, he can't cuddle without touching my breasts or putting his hand under my clothes, it feels pervy and letchorous.

I know I would be better off on my own with DD, but am a great believer in marriage is for life.

I have told him til I am blue in the face, what I like, don't like, tell him to stop pawing at me, it is relentless.

Please help!! I just want a real man in bed and in a relationship, it is driving me nuts!

OP posts:
DaddyOrChips · 08/01/2009 17:29

can anyone help or had similar?

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VinegarTits · 08/01/2009 17:30

Marriage shouldnt be for life if you are not happy, which in turn will reflect on you dd.

DaddyOrChips · 08/01/2009 17:32

that is true, I feel like nipping things in the bud now and save heartache later as I have gotten more and more unhappy as the years have passed. I just haven't got the guts and no-one else wil have me and I will end up in another relationship that I am not happy in.

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ImPinkThereforeImSpam · 09/01/2009 14:58

IMHO, it would be better to be somewhere where you're happy and can rediscover yourself and feel good about yourself. Your self esteem must be suffering.
What message is your DD picking up from his behaviour towards you and your putting up with it? Will she grow up thinking it's ok for men to treat women with little respect?
As for no one else having you and ending up in another unhappy relationship, if it's a choice between Crap or nothing, I'd go for nothing! We all deserve a shining knight, not a whining sh*te!
I hope it works out for you.

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