My husband told me almost 6wks ago that he had been having an affair for 6months.Shock horror are the words that spring to mind.I am absoulutely devastated,as are our children who are 20,18, and 15.This is totally out of character, he has always been a good husband and dad,I still find it hard to believe.The day I found out he left the house in a terrible state, he went off for a couple of hours and came back to all of us in a bad way.I told him he must leave,which he did taking some clothes with him.He checked into a hotel room where he stayed overnight txting our children and me to say sorry!!!!Our families our heartbroken,we have been married 21yrs and together for 25yrs.Like all couples we have had our share of ups and downs.We have had a difficult time the last couple of years my mum suffers with alziehmers and needs lots of support, my husbands parents are not well,his father suffers from parkinsons diease.On top of this we have had financial problems, moved house to try and ease the burden, and he was having the affair.Since he tod us our emotions are in tatters.He said after 10 days he couldnt come home because of the hurt and guilt,and that he has feeling for this woman.I have spoken to him 3 or 4 times on our own and he is very tearful says he doesnt sleep(shame)neither do I much.He has been very apposed to counselling, but txt me monday to say would it be a good idea if he saw my counsellor,mine wouldnt unless it was couple counselling but he is arranging for him to see someone.I told him that I felt he had made to many rash decisions to quickly and he does say Im right but has to take one day at a time.He is very confused about his thoughts and feelings.In the meantime he is living in a flat with this 30yr old polish woman and 2 other couples????this is awful for me and our children who are having very little to do with him,which hurts him badly.I cant believe he would give all this up for her,and choose her over us.He was once a real family man.Any advice would be gratefully recieved.