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So sick of my disfunctional family!!

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Dragonfly74 · 07/01/2009 15:35

Mum and stepdad went abroad over christmas so the family all got together at mums house on the 3rd of january.

Me DH and our DC's live around 30 miles away from my family and we don't see them often so it should have been a lovely weekend and I suppose in a lot of ways it was but for a couple of exceptions.

Everytime me or DH told our DS off mum was saying "Oh don't tell him off" and then giving him cuddles.
My mum makes it pretty obvious she doesn't like my DH and spent most of the day glaring at him and blanking him if he tried to make conversation. This isn't the first time she's been like this she didn't like my brothers partners either but when my brothers confronted her she denied it.

My sister still lives at home and has a BF and my mum has said things about him to me and my brothers.

Basically my life is pretty much like this.... Mum and sister phone me slag members of the family off I am told by mum to "See and hear all but say nothing" and tbh i'm sick of it.

Anyway after after my brothers have gone my sister starts telling anyone that will listen personal things about their relationship and finances when she told me I told her straight that it was none of her business and that she should keep her mouth shut.

Me DH and the DC's go home and a day later i'm still angry at my sister for her behaviour not only towards my brothers and their partners but also other things that had occured at the party involving DH and DC's.

So stupidly in a moment of madness I called one of my brothers and told him what she had said and that in future to be careful what he tells her, he then called my other brother and told him what had been said. Second brother then in a rage calls mum demanding to speak to our sister. When mum and sister speak to him they have told him that it wasn't sister that said all this stuff but ME. .

I have never said a bad word against either of my brothers or their partners.
As it stands one of my brothers is speaking to me as he knows what our sister is like from past expierience, My other brother is speaking to me but says he doesn't know who to believe and because I have PND he thinks I've gone a bit mad.
And my mum and sister haven't called me since. I know I was stupid and should have kept my mouth shut because It looks like i've lost my family But I have been branded the black sheep when all I did was speak up in a moment of anger I've had months of hearing my mum and sister being bitchy and i'd had enough of it.

OP posts:
Dragonfly74 · 07/01/2009 16:19

Just to clarify, my mum knows it wasn't me that said these things because she was there when I told my sister to mind her own business and keep her mouth shut.

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mumonthenet · 08/01/2009 21:36

dragon, about whom was your sis talking? your brother and his relationship.

in any case, as you say, you will just have to learn to keep your mouth shut...like give your brothers gentle warnings to be careful what they say...but in a general way when you're chatting about something else.

hope it will all blow over for you...!

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