I am pregnant and not sleeping well.
Spent a few hours last night having a pointless ranty internal dialogue with myself about my BIL.
He has never said thank you for a present or bought me one. I have better things to do with my time in December than think hard of something he might like. This year I bought a very expensive and v. interesting book which I thought would mean something to him for a no. of reasons. I got handwritten thank you notes from my sister, and nephew and niece (really nice!) but if I hadn't given him the present with my own hands, I wouldn't even know if he had it - not even a verbal "ta" on the day. Next year he gets chocolate, if that. (My mum works really hard to get nice and suitable things for him and he doesn't bother to thank her either.)
He didn't help / arrange presents from his kids for their mum (they are too little to get organised on their own). Crap crap crap.
His son has caused concern at school and they are talking about putting him on the SN register. In particular he doesn't listen politely to stuff he is not in the mood for or thinks is not relevant to him. Over xmas I noticed that BIL never listens to anyone else, if he answers them always answers something they didn't actually say, always acts as if people or the business of getting on with each other is nothing to do with him. how can it be surprising that this 8 year old kid is having difficulties integrating etc when his dad treats everyone else as if they are not there, or at least would prefer they are not.
Loads of other stuff....
anyway how do other people put stuff like this out of their minds? I do not have to live with the eejit. None of this is criminal or appalling. I just want to know how not to be thinking about things like this at 4 in the morning.