Anyones dp managed to successfully overcome delayed ejaculation?

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Dp is suffering from this,although sometimes he can finish fine then other times not. He is quite embarrased and wont talk to me about it, but it is putting him off sex as he is worried it will happen again. Anyone have any positive stories please? Can it be overcome? I have done abit of research which all suggests counselling, but I dont think he would be up for that.

Posting under my current anon nickname so DH doesnt have a fit at what Im telling folks about him!!

So to answer your question, my DH has phases of this, usually when we have been out of action a while and try to resume a sex life. He never manages to finish at first, I think he feels under pressure initially. TBH it doesnt really bother me, I just tell him its great for me that he can go on so long (whereas actually its boring!!)and leave my comments at that. He just says 'Oh well, we know it takes a while to kick in again.' Im pretty sure the more wound up he got about it the more it became an issue in the past, but we seem to have got thro that by kind of ignoring it in a light hearted way. I guess Im lucky that my DH is no longer as worried about it as yours is...but at least it shows counselling isnt always the only solution.

My dh has suffered from this in the past. I try not to mention it too much as I don't want to stress him out more. It only came to a head when we were trying for a baby, took almost a year to conceive ds. We spoke about it then and he looked on the internet and said he would go to doctors if the problem continued. It then remied (sp?) itself, god knows how, I didn't ask as I was just relieved and didn't want to make a big deal out of it. Ds is now 16 months old and I want to have another baby quite soon. Sometimes dh doesn't climax and sometimes he does. Think I'm just going to wait and see what happens before broaching the subject again. Think stress is definately a factor though, and too much alcohol doesn't help. Sorry not much advice really, just wanted to let you know you are not alone!! Wish I had found mumsnet then so I could have discussed it. Didn't realise how common it was as dh was and still is my first and only love!

My dp has this. He never manages to finish the job during sex, but can with difficulty manage to by himself. We are trying for a baby which isn't easy as we have to self inseminate but we'll get there in the end. I'm lucky as my dp is very open about it and wants to try anything to improve it, we will be visiting the docs shortly!

A past long-term boyfriend was taking anti-depressants which affected his ability to climax. It's worth investigating any medications your DH may be taking to see if this could be a problem, otherwise I agree with other posters that reducing expectations and stress levels can help!

Thanks everyone, good to know we not alone.
He doesnt take any meds norky, but I do think he is depressed although he wont admit it.
We have tried a more relaxed approach this week, no pressure for sex just kissing etc and had some success although its early days. But he seems more positive now