Anyone want to share kickstart/revamp your sex life (not in a pervy sort of way mind!)

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We have decided that DH and I need to do this. After discussing this (and this was a bit fraught at times) and agreeing we need to put some effort into this area of our marriage we are going to...

Well we havn't got a 'plan' as such but I wondered if others on here have done this at some point and have any tips (not graphic details obviously) more steps towards being more intimate again.

I know some might read this and think well its obvious, but when you've got into lazy habits and let things slide it can seema bit daunting.

I can remember reading this type of stuff in womens mags when younger pre child thinking what are these women on about you just do it but now...

Share if you dare

This is what I did when things were a little dull:

1. felt good (sexy) about myself (lost weight, got fitter, had haircut etc)

2. made conscious effort to show dp that I loved him (little acts of kindness that I knew he would appreciate; notes left in his book etc; lovely texts)

3. snogging, kissing and more snogging (agree totally with others on this - it is so intimate)

4. good conversation - nothing heavy or serious, but the kind of fun witty stiff we did when we first dated.

5. not too much to drink - a big meal and a lot of alcohol is a recipe for wanting to sleep

Result: evening and the following morning!

thisiswhatwedid - your post was so lovely.

Sometimes what we used to do was have Pizza in Bed nights. Have baths, pour wine, DH puts oven on, have shag, DH puts pizza in oven, more wine, talk*, eat Pizza, have another shag if capable.

Nowadays if I buy a pizza, DH says "oooh you naughty girl..."

It's like: are we having pizza? or pizza?

*Now DS2 is next door to us we have to have the pizza downstairs, which sort of misses the point, but hey

Thanks notso and balloon

Notso - Number one is important for me I have been to slimming class and gym and I just feel so muc better know I am doing sumit about it. I am glad people 'got' my thread title as its nnot about the sex and positions and al that its the inbetween intimate stuff.

Balloon - Lovely - couple 'in jokes' can be very sexy/cheeky and make you feel its special for just you two. Ours is, 'when DS goes to bed' said in a certain way, not as good as your pizza though - whole new meaning to pizza delivery boy from dominoes!!

Having talked and thought about this issue I feel so much more relaxed about it all (which I though was becomming a big problems and storing up trouble for future) and excited even.

P.S. When DH got home on Monday night from work he asked me if I had enjoyed Sunday night. I was chuffed to bits that he had obviously been thinking about it and saw fit to ask. A good time had by all!