Sister-in-law from hell

[daisydreams]

AIBU?
My sil is a complete bitch. She seems to be jealous of my dh and tries to stir it when she can. Before I even started going out with dh I remember him telling our group of friends that she'd phoned him from abroad to tell him to either get out of her flat or buy it off her/sell it within 6 weeks - he was a full fee-paying guest! Parents don't know she was going to throw brother/dh out.
Now when we go to visit parents she always manages to turn up with her brood. She's lied about who the father/s are - keep it to yourself, dont go round telling every family member a different story. She announced one of her pregnancies when we were there on holiday - devout parents horrified and v. angry = baaaad atmosphere + lovely holiday for us! She twists and lies about anything I say to MIL who always sidles up to me and says "SIL says you said dah-dah-dah, is that true". Any time she phones she goes on and on about the money she gets from the father/s as if the kids were just a money-making enterprise! I could go on ,she's a horror. There's just so much the family don't know about and she annoys me so much. Any advice?

keep your distance and ignore as much as possible. sh is so attention seeking

madrose Thankfully she does live a fair distance away but FIL gives out everyone's mobile numbers so now she texts. Not a social how are you but one that comes in instalments with a sting in the tail. I'm dreading our next visit to parents - we have to stay several nights in a very small flat to make it worthwhile, last time she left two of her kids. One sister thought she'd gone to stay with an old school friend, another sister thought she was at another friend but it turned out she'd gone home for a couple of days with the other two kids, several hundred miles away! She knows we only get to see the parents once a year, so dh was boiling that she'd' gatecrashed' again!

She sounds like an attention seeking cow. Best to stay away from her as madrose says. Would make a point of never to reply to her texts, calls, etc. Might get your Dh to mention it to his parents that you guys would love to see them without her being there and could that not be arranged, you'd like quality time with them. Or could your Dh go & get his parents and you all stay at yours for a week. Oh and then tell SIL there's no space for her or any of her brood.

block her number

She sounds quite miserable. Decide to have as little to do with her as possible and then try to forget the past. Stay in touch with her children if you can, they sound like they will need family support in the future

How horrible for you. Does your dh get on with his sister? Do you get on with your parents-in-law?

I too have a dreadful SIL who breeds for Britain and is an undiagnosed Paranoid(neighbours talking about her, following her about, poisoning the dog...)

I do not see her or my brother unless I absolutely HAVE to. It's all very sad and profoundly dysfunctional, and dreadful for all the children involved. There is a broad spectrum of human behaviour. Some people still manage to fall off the edge.

Oh dear, at least it sounds as though DH and PIL's must also see that she is a nightmare.

Ah-ha, so you've all met her then!!! DH is well aware of her moves, he's been on the receiving end too many times. Unfortunately MIL blinds herself, once she was on the phone to SIL saying how alike all the children look, with FIL in the same room saying "no, they don't!" DH just stonewalls her on the phone, to her face. I'm still learning - fast - just how conniving she can be. She also has a habit of turning up unannounced for a visit, it's like a bomb going off. I've told DH to tell her we do not do unannounced visits (from her) and if she does it again we're getting the coats on and going out! Snookster, I had the PILs to stay twice, it was like entertaining Father Stone (Father Ted show) they sat on the sofa for 3 days and refused all ideas of activity. We actually saw less of our kids because they retreated to their rooms! MIL complained about my new cushions on the bed (my bed!) saying "what have I to do with these, just put them on the floor?" gggrrrr!

Keep away, keep away

Shes a nutter stay well away

Thanks folks, it's just good to know that it's not just me! I don't have a sister so I don't know how to measure this. Have decided that a few of her behaviours do need limits set where they affect my family, thanks to you all, daisy d.