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Has anyone solved the problem of a DH who snores LOUDLY??? Save us from divorce!

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DontGetIt · 29/12/2008 20:43

I mean, what do we do next? Have tried sprays, nasal strips, mouth guard thingummy,ear plugs, but nothing works. We are now in different rooms and tbh I can still hear him, even when I leave the ear plugs in. He isn't over weight, and snores in any position so the poke-roll over approach doesnt help. He is LOUD. Bed vibrating kind of loud.

I cannot pretend to be blameless though since I am and always have been a bit over sensitive to noise. Even as a small child I remember listening to the telly whilst in bed wishing they would turn it off because it kept me awake. Didnt bother my brothers.

So if the snorer cant be helped, is there any way for me to be less sensitive??

Or does someone have a snoring rememdy that really does help..?

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cheerytinselcherry · 29/12/2008 20:47

Can't help but you could be me!!!!! Have tried everything too, will watch with interest for a magic cure. Someone has suggested there is an operation that works for some people (but not v happy about thought of that) so a trip to GP may be in order. I am knackered by it, and he has bruised legs!!!

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DontGetIt · 29/12/2008 20:51

But you remain in the same bed cheery?? That is devotion! I gave up when if it wasn't him waking me it was the baby and haven't managed to get back together since (2 years now...eek) But sadly sleep seems so much more attractive than DH these days!

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KerryMumbles · 29/12/2008 20:51

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Hassled · 29/12/2008 20:53

Get an ENT referral asap via your GP. Could well be nasal polyps.

cheerytinselcherry · 29/12/2008 20:54

Its off and on, sometimes I brave it, but lately have not been well and have treasured my sleep more than anything...so he offered to go in the spare room , but it is so infuriating when sleep is so precious. Thought about industrial earphones (like pneumatic drill users wear!) but think they will be bit uncomfy!

bronze · 29/12/2008 20:54

murder?

(hopes she doesnt get arrested for incitement)

Frizbe · 29/12/2008 20:55

ENT defo, good luck!

DumbledoresGirl · 29/12/2008 20:55

Has he tried a medical approach? My dh snores and the last time it got bad, he went to the GP and ended up having a small op on his nose (I can't remember what exactly, but his problems do seem to stem from some dodgy medical practice he underwent as a child). Anyway, the op did help with the snoring but it is now as bad as ever again. I share a bed with him (nowhere else to go and I need the warmth his body provides!) but if I don't get to sleep before him, it can take a lot of harrumphing and tossing and turning on my part before sleep comes to me. This morning, I swear his snoring woke me up as I was awake before him (very rare) and he was snoring away.

Anyway, that is my personal rant over. Just wondered if you had been to the GP about this?

SoupDragon · 29/12/2008 20:58

This isn't going to help you but the orthodontic treatment DS1 has been having has stopped his snoring completely. So completely that I can't hear him breathing at night at all. His future wife is going to love me

cmotdibbler · 29/12/2008 20:59

Send him to the GP - theres a number of reasons for snoring, and in the vast majority of cases it can be cured.

He needs a referral to a sleep clinic though, not ENT as he'll need a sleep study to determine what is causing the snoring.

My DH snored terribly - turned out he had sleep apnoea and stopped breathing 87 times an hour. He now has a machine to keep him breathing, and silence reigns in our bedroom

Hassled · 29/12/2008 20:59

The other possibility is Allergic Rhinitis - my DH is allergic to a number of things, but notably dust mites, so I'm constantly washing the bedding at high temperature and hoovering the bedroom,and can tell by the increase in snoring that it's time to do it again. With Rhinitis the internal tubey bits get inflamed and aggravate snoring. DH also apparently has polyps, which are quite easy to remove.

mousymum · 29/12/2008 21:02

Hi,I sometimes sprinkle olbus oil on the edge of dhs pillow,it seems to help his breathing and I srinkle lavender oil on my pyjamas to help calm me.If really bad resort to dds bedroom floor.My husband works in a power station and his earplugs are very soft but good.

JentlyDoesIt · 29/12/2008 21:03

My DP is a terrible snorer, he is currently aleeping downstairs on the sofa bed as he wakes the children up when he comes upstairs He snored so loudly the other night that the neighbours banged on the wall

His dad also snores and has recommended an ioniser - says it has totally cured him. He puts it on at 7pm and turns it off when they go to bed and he hasn't snored at all... Currently trying to source one on the net.

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DontGetIt · 29/12/2008 21:04

Love the suggestions! From ENT to murder, that covers all bases! I shall, of course, consider them all carefully

Actually yes, he has seen people about it...apparently a GP or maybe dentist has said he has a very floppy larynx (sp?)which I guess is the problem...but I am a bit nervous of sending him the surgical route. What if he has an op and then still snores? I would feel very bad. No one ever found a way of sleeping through it all whilst still being alert to the DCs then..? Not possible I guess. Sigh. Bye bye sex life then...

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Ronaldinhio · 29/12/2008 21:05

wax ear plugs for you

If that works then you can get very fancy and comfortable ones made for you at a shooting emporium

cheerytinselcherry · 29/12/2008 21:05

Hassled how do they find out its allergic rhinitis?

cupcakesinthesnow · 29/12/2008 21:08

My Dh snores HORRIFICALLY. It was so bad he went the ENT route which involved overnight stays in a sleep clinc 3 seperate times, loads of referrals etc etc and 18 months down the line they gave him this device to wear in his mouth that made it impossoble for him to sleep. He then lost 2 stone and stopped snoring unless he had a cold. It was heaven.

BUT he started again a few months ago and it's got to the point where I actually hate him for it. I know that sounds awful but you have to have experience the sever sleep deprivation that goes with sleeping night after night with a man who snores so violently that even when you sleep in the spare room or downstairs with ear plugs in, his snores resinate through the walls and ceilings still keeping you awake. The worst part is (well, one of the many worst parts) that when I nudge him initially he replies 'What?! I am NOT snoring. I am not even asleep yet!' Like I am imagining it?!? God, it is driving me insane. I truely cannot bare it for much longer. It had woken the children on occasion but usually if they are alseep when it starts they are ok. He did go upstairs for a nap yesterday inthe afternoon (we were noth tired from a wedding the night before) and I was trying to watch a DVD with the children and they kept saying 'Is that Daddy?' as his snoring was heard over the DVD!

Sorry, I have ranted on your thread. I am very raw from this atm and like you are desperate for a solution. I am sending his of to the doctors again but as it took 18 months of referrals and tests last time it's not a wuick solution by any means

DumbledoresGirl · 29/12/2008 21:09

Nothing stopping you inviting him to your bed for sex and then kicking him out to sleep!

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DontGetIt · 29/12/2008 21:09

Sadly can hear him but not the DCs with wax ear plugs Ron...not right, I know!

Some very thought provoking suggestions here tho. The poor bloke is going to be experimented on for a while methinks!

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DontGetIt · 29/12/2008 21:12

On crikey cupcakes...that sounds dire. Good luck with it, god help me if DH gets that bad. It is indeed soul destroying at its worst.

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Ronaldinhio · 29/12/2008 21:13

sorry t'was my best offering...

cheerytinselcherry · 29/12/2008 21:14

cupcake am so sarry for you, but know how you feel...maybe we should source how to soundproof our bedrooms in order to save our sanity! It is all v grim though.

cheerytinselcherry · 29/12/2008 21:15

sarry? sorry!

ThatAngelsGotATreeUpHerArse · 29/12/2008 21:18

DP has similar problems and we tried everything. Eventually off to the doctors and it turned out he had a deviated septum. The doc thought he'd been beaten up or had rugby injuries etc but he hadn't. Operation in August and now, blissful sleep.
There's still the occasional night when he snores gently but it's only a problem when I'm having problems sleeping anyway. Then I feel like kicking him just because I'm jealous

cupcakesinthesnow · 29/12/2008 21:20

We have been looking to move for a while and my priority is to have a seperate annexe or extension where he could sleep and not disturb the rest of the house! It is usually I who gets up and moves in the night as he is too deep in sleep. I want my bed back!

I recently saw a device at Lloyds chemist that gave the snorer a small electric shock (!) But I think he had to snore 3 times before it happened so thought that wouldn;t too well as he would be getting socks all night inbetween snores.