Dh and I are having marriage problems. He has a pretty bad temper and we argue alot. It is mainly about DS1(21 months) who is going through a really bad patch of being naughty. He seems to ignore everything we do or say. We've tried ignoring his bad behaviour, trying to distract him and various things the HV suggests. So DH has taken to just yelling at him really loudly, which I hate.
DS2 is 17 days old. I have struggled a bit with BF thanks to MWs with different advice and 1 MW forcing us to give him formula. I have been quite upset about this. But DH has been moaning that I sit watching him struggle with DS1 and I don't do anything. Well that might have something to do with having a baby attached to my boobs! I have a feeling he feels left out now as DS1 was FF so he could feed him and when the MW said we had to give formula top ups I was BF and then DH would give him his top up.
He went to the GP earlier this year during the summer and was told to take Calms, they didn't do anything so he went to see another GP. They got him counselling(sp) and this also hasn't seemed to work. It mainly centred on his childhood which wasn't all that good really. His mum and dad argued all the time, DH saw his mum threaten to kill his dad and then they split up and he didn't see his dad for about 8 years. Then it all went wrong on our wedding day and he doesn't see his dad anymore.
We can quite often go over a month with no arguements at all and then we'll have a week or 2 of rows where we both think splitting up would be best. But I don't want us to split up as I love him to pieces. I sometimes wonder if having the boys has caused this as we never really argued before DS1 arrived. I really miss the man I married.
He is going to to back to the GP to ask about anger management.
Thanks for reading/listening. I feel a bit better to get it off my chest.