Why do so many men have problems with alcohol?

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

My DH has today said he will give up alcohol. I called him an alcoholic. I do not think he is one but when he starts he can't stop. Doesn't care if he throws up or anything. Like a teenager. I was awake from 3-7 last night making sure he didn't puke on the floor then with his snoring. He was out with my bro and his mates - has humiliated bro. Left wallet in taxi and the £50 that was in it has gone. Defensive and minimising of it - he has minging hangover which my parents are being very tolerant of but I'm not. He has really upset my very easy going brother - they are best mates apart from bros in law. Sad and frustrated.

Was this a one of incident?

What did he do to upset your brother?

Sounds like he is feeling sorry for himself today and seeking pity.

Put on some loud music and make him suffer.

How long has he been drinking to such an extent?.

Has he stated that he would give up the drink before now?.

What is your definition of an alcoholic?. Alcoholics come in all shapes and sizes. You called him alcoholic although you don't think (or perhaps even want to think) that your own husband is alcoholic.

Many women in these situations end up as their partner's enabler; why were you awake from 3am to make sure he did not throw up on the floor?. That is enabling behaviour on your part. It seems that others are also enabling - his parents for example. Do you ever show him that there are consequences for his actions?.

If you have children you need to consider them as well. If one of their parents is alcoholic this can bring to them their own set of emotional problems as adults. Alcoholism affects everyone around them to their detriment.

If you have not contact Al-anon to date I would consider doing so.

Hi. He drinks regularly but not excessively. He goes to pub once a week and gets merry but will take any opportunity iyswim. So Xmas was a big boozefest for him. He's immature when drinking so will mix and do shots etc and get ill. He's not physically addicted, he stops for 2.5 months every year for ramadan with no issues but psychologically i think he uses alcohol to deal with stress. My dad does too so i know how it is livin with a problem drinker. We have discussed it and discussed ways to avoid it in future. I try not to enable, but we are at my parents and staying in the guest bedroom of her employers, the rugs are valuable! Plus no sofa to sleep on which i would normally- leave him a bucket and get on with it. I gave him a hard time today all day. He upset my bro by embarrassing him in front of his friends. Thanks for listening!