WWYD? Dh got me quite a lot of very expensive presents for Christmas....but we also have a very large credit card balance..so do we take some of it back?

[jmum6]

I had a wii fit,
North face coat
Jewllery
Series 1-4 of lost
cds
beautil hurricane lamp
plus lots of lovely little things, socks, underwear etc

Now I'm really pleased he has put so much thought and effort in, but I'm now have a panic on over how much money he has spent...so should we take some back?

I'm thinking maybe the wii fit (as we haven't opened it yet) and the north face coat as i haven't worn it yet either.

(I can't bear to give back the lost dvds (shame) or the hurricane lamp!)

Yes

How does your dh feel about taking some of it back?

If he is happy for you to do so then take the wii back - but if it's going to cause a row then the 'cost' would be too much iyswim

yes, I did the same with my ex husband many years ago and told everyone to buy me nothing this year as we are short of money.

I've just been reading the forums on moneysavingexpert so I would still say yes. But obv your financial situation is something you really need to discuss together.

Does he know you have a large credit card balance? And how badly do you need to get rid of it?

I would do a serious budget, with him (and a glass of wine), month by month for the next year.

There may be other ways and means - it would be a shame to do this as a knee-jerk reaction when he has been so thoughtful.

But my first reaaction is, yes, I would take them back... I would start to associate the coat/game with stress.

Choosyfloosy - yes, thats it exactly, associating it all with stress

The credit card bill is his not mine (although as we are married it is 'ours' I suppose )

Yes.

Noone should be buying expensive gifts when they are in debt