2nd Xmas without dd

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who ran away 2 years ago when she was 14. Miss her so much.
She lives with in-laws but they can't even be arsed to call us and let us know what she got and is she ok.
dd usually talks to me on MSN when she feel s like it but hasn't messaged me for over 2 weeks and I don't know why
my heart is breaking

Ah hun. This is so sad. Times like Christmas always intensify these feelings, doesn't it?

Is there any way you could call her? Or at the very least, send her an email message?

I spent some time not speaking to my mother, and, rightly or wrongly, I always saw it as her not talking to me, not caring enough etc, rather than me not talking to her. I think that is just how a teenager's mind works.

So, call, text, email, whatever. You mat get awkward silences or even rudeness, but it will mean more to her than she will admit to you, and even possibly herself.

Big big hugs to you today. You have been a big help to me in my time of need, so a big thank you too.

Duke.

xXx

i dont know if she's at home with in-laws or at one of her friends houses. in-laws never tell us even though we've requested they do as we still have parental responisbility. They make no effort to teach her about family or try to get her to mend bridges. I'm so scared that when she is 18 she will just bugger off and I'll never know where she is or even if she is alive
I guess it being Christmas makes it worse as she ran away just after Christmas and left all the little gifts I'd spent ages finding for her behind.

left an msn message for her that I hope she will see.
How are you today Duke. Was thinking about you last night and wishing I could say something more useful.

NMC...so sorry to read this. I hope you're ok. How sad for you. xxx

Hi NMC.

Christmas Day here is pretty much more of the same. Have been hibernating this last week or so, trying to look after myself and have some space to think. Will go out for a walk a bit later to try to clear my head a bit and get some exercise!

Am, of course, knicker-checking constantly too, and bleeding seems to have gone now (fingers crossed). I have no more pregnancy testing kits left and have promised myself I won't buy another one until Saturday.

I really do feel for you with the situation regarding your DD, must be really really hard. Try to go easy on yourself and do make contact any way you can.

xXx

nmc.. how very very sad for you. I hope she sees what you have sent. Am full of admiration for you. Nothing helpful - but please be kind to yourself today.

you have done right to try and contact her, hopefully she will see things differently when she is a bit older. xx

NMC

I think all you can do is to keep going as you are - send her messages even if you don't hear back from her. When she's older and wiser she'll realise that you never stopped caring.

NMC, hope that she responds quickly. As long as she knows that you are there when she is ready, you are leaving the door open for her to come back.

Hope the rest of your Christmas day goes as smoothly as it can. A special hello to your lovely girl.

Oh NMC why don't you ring the in laws and see where she is?

If you don't mind me asking how come she ran away?

I don't really know nappy. A combination of things. Big chip on shoulder, being 14, severely disabled sister, stressed parents, lack of money, friends dad saying 'oh come and live with us and I'll buy you things'. she wont tell me.

at friend's dad!!

Read several of your threads today.I am with you with all my heart. I hope she sees your MSN and answers to you very soon.do you ever see her at all?

no

Did she get your MSN? Maybe what Duke said about keeping on trying is the best advice. I can only imagine what you have been going through for the last couple of years.

How is your 4 year old doing, any better?

no one can hurt you like your kids can they

my daughter did this although she was 16 it was still horendous she dissapears for weeks befor moving in with her brother I keeped trying to make contact and I must say it paid off she is now 25 and we are very close it took her to have her own baby to realise what she was missing but because I had tried to keep comunication going it ment she didnt feel uncomfortable when she decided it was right time to talk to us again hang on in there and hopefully you will get the same result