right. i have done it. called the police............

[stitch]

and they have taken him away. they were absolutley fabulous. and it hasnt sunk in yet. i am not terrified yet.
oh dear.

Well done on being so brave. I hope you were able to enjoy the rest of the day

Well done for being so strong. Hope the rest of the day has been better. Best wishes

Good luck with everything. I hope things get sorted.

Well done fir calling the police. That took real guts. Hope you had a good day.

Ignore your family and anyone who is not supportive of your decision. Keep yourself and the DC safe.

Stitch - you have done the right thing. Lots of strength to you. I think you need support in this difficult time. Could you contact a save house where you could find other women who have gone through the same and some advice where to go from now?

You've done the right thing.

Dunno if it will help you feel any better but I've just spoken to DP (a police officer) and he says it will be taken deadly serious by both the police and the CPS (the people who decide to prosecute or not), his exact words were 'Rape is rape'.

Stitch I wish you strength. you have done the right thing, and he has got away with bullying you for YEARS. And bullying might be acceptable but rape certainly is not and you need to do this for your dc's, they need to know that the way he behaves towards you is totally unacceptable. Best of luck x

Hoping you are ok, well done. xx

oh stitch my darling, what a horrific thing to go through, you are totally in the right as you know.

please feel free to contact me if you need anything or want to chat - or let off steam.

be strong. THIS proves you are a good mother, if nothing else.

My goodness, you are amazing, stitch. I am so sorry you are going though this. I bet your children will be soo proud of you, though. Lots of positive thoughts heading your way.

Stich, well done to you. You shoudl be feeling veyr proud of youself. My father was abusive to all of us as well as my mother adn you taking this stand will be something your DC will thank you for 1000 times over.

Good for you, and keep posting, there is lots of support here for you.

Sending you good wishes Stitch. x

oh my god
thank you all for your support
it has been an exhasuting day. i didnt sleep last night. the police were fantastic. am completely shattered now and am going to gets omesleep.
but the house is peaceful.............

i have to go back tomorrow to give a further statement. which is apparently what they will base it on, but am too tired to think about that now
had a lovely dinner wuth sister and kids. now to bed

Take care, Stitch. You've been amazing. xxx

Good luck for today dear, don't minimise what he has done in any way - be really clear about everything. Try and make a list of all the things, over time, that add up to this being very clear cut.

Will be thinking of you xx

thinking of you xx

Hope you're OK Stitch.

Just read your thread and sending you powerfull vibes to survive the up and coming times. You are a survivor as you have got this far and gone through so much. You can take whatever comes and can always come here for a vent.

Focus on why you need to scream full stop now - for you and your children and the lives you will lead free of this bull shit.

Bless you, keep rested and keep strong. Everyone who has a sense of right and wrong is on your side, the rest don't matter. x

Just read your threads and wanted to send some hugs and support to you, well done for being so brave, take care of you and your dcs xx

thank you all for your lovely thoughts and messages.
today i went and gave a statment to them. was more like me waffling on and on for about two hours. they are being sooo pro active about ti. i am amazed.
so he is out on bail, to some hotel address, andnot allowed home. which is perfecct. the criminal and the civil proceedings will be dealt with separtely. they ar trying to gather evidence to support my allegation. and they may look at my mumsnet threads,a ndmy facebook stuff. as they say the want to corroborate what i was doing that night. and to get some history of the relationship.
so much talkning happened recently. my sister has had the kids, and been lovely. its amazing too, that the kids have previously witnessed so many fights, yet, whensomething big and final like this is happening, they dont know aboutit. i am so glad they dont.
today, wheni was at the police station, he went to my sisters house, where the kids are, then took them to the cinema. i finished at half three, but bil told me he wanted to take them. i said fine, as long as he didnt tell the kids what was happening. they are so used to him always working, andbeing away, they dont need to be stressed about anythig right now. so i had the afternoon free, adn slept in my peaceful quiet house. bil brought htem back at nine.
i need to find out some more information. but am tired. also, the police want to take the computer. did i already say that?
lol, i need to sleep.
i love you all mumsnetters. you are all wonderfu l wonderful women. thank you for being there for me, and supporting me.

stitch, i'm really glad you've done this and been treated so kindly. so brave.

now you can look forward to a happy future.

Stitch, so glad you took on board what was suggested on the other thread and it is working out for you now. Well done you for being so brave and taking action against him.

Best of luck with it and I hope you have a Happy New Year now he is not able to hurt you again.