Christmas without our GD again [fsad]

[midlandsmumof4]

This is our 1st (and only) GD's second Christmas and we aren't going to see her-again. We are gutted. I can't believe her mum has done this! My son won't see his daughter either. His card has been returned opened. Money still intact. My heart is broken for him .

I'm so sorry - didn't want to let this go unanswered. Does your son have access? Do you get to see your GD at other times? How awful for your son (and you)

That is so sad.
Does your son have scheduled access?

Thank you so much for taking out to reply at this precious time of year.

My son doesn't have access yet. His ex (they are not married btw) absolutely refuses him any contact. I can't bring myself to contact the ex p because of her actions. There is a lot of history, its not the first time she's done this. We are waiting for a court date regarding a contact order but I can't see her complying. We haven't seen our GD since the beginning of August (neither has my son). How can this happen? I can't believe her parents condone her actions .

I remember your previous thread.

Why have you also not contacted this lady?. You should not be directly in this ex's line of fire.

Parental Alienation Syndrome is at work here.
This is an extremely painful situation for all concerned; the one who will also suffer ultimately will be their daughter as well because she does deserve a relationship with her Dad. All your son and yourselves can do currently is to maintain contact and keep all cards and correspondence to show his daughter when she is of age. At least then she will know that her Dad and you made continual and concerted efforts to contact her despite them all being returned. This lady's actions will come back to haunt her one day.

His ex partner has certainly used the Court system to its full effect; unfortunately no-one seemingly contested the Prohibited Steps order that she requested. I can only assume that your son did not fully realise the legal implications, did not seek or receive proper legal advice, perhaps stuck his head in the sand and hoped that his ex would come around.

so sorry for you. Its my second Xmas without my dd (16). Its hard when there's a family member missing.
How old is your GD?

She will be 2 in April. NMC-have just read your thread, it must be even harder for you. We have not really been given the chance to form a bond with our GD although we love her very much. Had it been one of my sons we lost contact with I don't know how I'd cope..

Midlandmumof4, I don't know if this helps and it will be hard to do, my husband has two brothers who are divorced (2 children in one relationship and one in the other). My parents in law have gone out of their way to keep the relationships between my ex-sister-in-laws civil so that they get to see the grand-kids and they have maintained contact with my ex-sister-in-laws parents who do the dropping off and collecting of the kids - would this work in your situation?

Thanks Scarlet. No, unfortunately it wouldn't. Son's ex will not allow anyone outside of her family to have contact. They have changed their land line number & cancelled mobiles. I miss my GD very much but because of her mums previous actions towards my son I feel I would be disloyal to him if I made contact. I hope this makes sense.

How about any friends?