If your OH punched you because you were coughing too much...

[MrsSnape]

How would you react?

My friend just told me how she's had this bad cough for 3 weeks and its driving her mad. Her husband apparantly is getting even more wound up by it and last night punched her because he couldn't get any sleep!

I said "what? jokingly punched you you mean?" and she said "oh no, he meant it, he was really annoyed, as if I can help it!"

I said "what did you do?" (meaning, did you detach his balls from his body in return kind of thing) and she replied "I went downstairs to get some water to try and shift it".

This isn't the first time she's told me of her husband's bullying ways but she thinks I over-react when she tells me stuff!

How would YOU react in this situation?

Police, domestic abuse complaint and marching orders. Only way imo

Sounds like maybe she is hoping you will help maybe?

MrsSnape, this is such a silly question I can't be arsed to answer it.

I would rather watch xmas crap on telly.

< move along folks >

She needs to get her cough sorted, sorry. 3 weeks of sleepness nights because your partner is coughing is more than even the most mild mannered person can take.

OK he shouln't have punched her, but equally, she shouldn't be coughing like that all the time, it is very very wearing.

Ta Ta he'd be offski if he were my partner.
What a bastard

WOW Nametaken there is nothing 'equally' here its dometic violence.
You cant help it if you have cough, I had one for 4 weeks if my DH had punched me because of it our relationship would be over.
Yes sleepless nights are awful but its no different to if he had punched her because for 3 week old there newborn had been keeping then up.

nametaken you are taking the piss, right?

How pray, does one get rid of a cough?

I presume she does not cough for her own amusement, as Kitty in Pride and Prejudice once said.

Suggest you explain to her that this is domestic violence and give her the numbers/URLs for Women's Aid and Refuge. What will he do next time he thinks she's annoying?

Nametaken, surely that post isn't serious?

you know, its posts that these that make me open my eyes to the relationship I used to have with xh. I used to think this behaviour was normal

so glad to get rid.

ratbunny

nametaken, are you 'avin a xmas joke?

MrsSnape: I not certain but there was some law changes on dometic violence and the victim no longer has to contact police themselves or press charges if police see enough evidence of abuse they will press charges regardless.
If he does it again then I would call the local police station and as to speak to someone about it.

ratbunny, glad you are out of it- I never had any physical abuse, but all sorts of other aggro, and it fair brings a happy tear of relief to my eye to be away from that now and with somebody fantastic!

Is she asthmatic? I often get a cough I can't shift if I don't use my inhaler.

its so weird thinking f myself as a victim of domestic violence. It seemed 'normal' to me. Its only talking to others now I am out of it that I realise it isnt.
feel sorry for his new woman really...

ratbunny, that's why I always start gibbering with rage if I see posts which underplay the importance of DV. So many women do think it's normal and they're over-reacting and to come on a website they rely on for common sense and have that message backed up by idiot posters who are also telling them that it's no big deal to be the victim of DV, makes me incandescent with rage.

So glad you got out and know you deserve better.

thanks
tbh I am only just coming to terms with it. Its also the shame of putting up with it. weird I know, but if you think its normal then realise it isnt, its quite embarrassing to let on that you put up with this shit behaviour.
got out of it by accident (him running off with ow) but thank god! therwise things would have gone on. At least now I have the chance to buid a normal healthy relationship with someone who ISNT abusive.