low libido - why do so many women endure it?

[theladysnowlush]

It's just a thought. I've experienced it myself last year - before I was diagnosed with an under-active thyroid. I thought it was just due to being a mum, working hard, being tired, feeling pulled in several directions etc. Anyway, I have spoken to several women who feel the same way. They seem resigned to it They are not old - 30's. They wouldn't dream of going to the G.P or addressing their lifestyle to try to address the problem. Do they think it is a temporary problem or are they just not bothered?

Merry Xmas ladylush, glad you got your groove back- here's to an action-packed Christmas

Hi LL I can vouch for her she is NOT a troll (macdoodle her BTW)!
FWIW as someone said earlier I think for women realtionship issues are a much bigger part of libido!
I normally have a very high sex drive but know when STBXH was being a complete dick and treating me like shit I just didnt WANT to have sex with him .....
Was nothing wrong with my libido per se just not with him IYSWIM !

No worries anyfucker And thanks macdoodle
Hope everyone has a great xmas and new year and that's whether you feel like it or not

Charlee - am sorry to hear that you have to contend with Bipolar. I'm a CPN so I hear from clients just how hard the lows can be. Also the problem with psychotropic medication is that it can leave many people feeling numb. Some people would rather feel alive even if that means doing risky things, than feeling, well, numb. I have nursed many very creative, intelligent people with BPAD.

A low libido isn't necessarily a health issue.

I quite like sex, and DH do it often enough for me, but judging by most of the stuff people write on here, nothing like enough for most people. I could only see it being a problem if one of us found it to be a frustration.
As for "Why do so many women endure it", I don't think I do 'endure' anything. I wonder sometimes why so many people endure low levels of academic curiosity - I guess we all have different priorities!

I agree with Trifleorbust about it not necessarily being a health issue.

It's a bit like going off certain foods. Yes, you could go off certain foods as a result of a health issue - pregnancy, aversion after having food poisoning, physiological changes etc. But sometimes you're just not in the mood for that food as much anymore. Occasionally you might get a craving for it but most of the time you're just not that peckish for it.

That's how I would describe low libido for most people - it's not necessarily a health issue or a defect.

Charlee and ladysnowlush. Psyche meds aren't good for your libido.
I have bipolar to contend with too and came off one of the meds as it turned me into a zoned out human carb vacuum with no libido whatsoever.

I did address my low libido problem with my GP recently, after I'd come off one of the meds. I thought she would be sympathetic, being a woman and all. I used to have a really healthy libido.

I wonder sometimes why so many people endure low levels of academic curiosity

indeed!

or someone who's really enthusiastic about opera/death-metal might wonder why those who are indifferent to the pleasures of opera/death-metal dont try and get a cure for their affliction

why would anyone just endure their low desire for opera/death-metal, are they mad??

In my case I started early (15) and now at 54 and 2 husbands and one 4 year relationship later I find Im just not bothered. I am not actually very tactile generally to be honest. In each relationship I was ok for 2 or 3 years and after that I just went off it. No idea why but its definitely got worse as I got older and have just been menopausal as well. Its a problem with us though as husband I know does feel rejected, problem is I really cant force myself mentally, I just tighten up and its pretty obvious Im not into it. Maybe there is an expectation on us that we should all be into it for ever more. In my case as well I have had a lot of stress and that doesnt help.

Zombie thread, bumped like many by Pearl to promote her book.

Omg I didn't notice the 2008 date!
I read a bit of pearl's blog....don't give up the day job Pearl

why cant MN lock old threads or get them deleted?
They have the capacity tosave "Classics" so why cant they lock and save any that are useful and just delete all others?

Ha, me neither! Still, I enjoyed the death metal comparison