Dating etiquette - what is important to you / anyone else think this is a damn cheek?

[ElectraInExcelsis]

I was dating a guy once who expected me to meet up with him at a moment's notice (like 30 minutes!) If people do this I usually always say no because I'm either busy doing something else, don't have time to get ready and also don't really like to give the impression that I'm available whenever someone snaps their fingers (and I'm usually not!) However, he would then act hurt and as if I didn't like him.

I think it's always bad form personally unless you have known the person a very long time...

er yeah it is!!So i guess you told him where to go then?

Yes I said to him that if you do that it looks like the person you are asking is a last resort. He seemed confused - think he was clueless tbh

Yep, very rude. I read that book The Rules out of curiosity once, and that said you should never accept a date after Wednesday for Saturday, so whoever wrote that would be having kittens at half an hour.

LOL - yes I read that book too

aagh blaardy useless clueless men!!man ive been seeing thinks ill just wait for him indefinately and he really does believe that no mind games involved either thats just how he thinks!he hasnt a clue about women he is hopelessly out of touch i found it quite endearing at first now im just downright bored of it!have posted for some help on lone parents as want to end it nicely if possible

oh crikey, that means that my sister due to call yesterday or this morning for PM coffee date DOES NOT GET ANSWERED!
i said to ds give her til 12 but, it's tad thoughtless isnt it? we are busy we are hanging on..

YAY i dont have to meet her and it says so in an etiquette book!
love you guys

Aura, dating etiquette can't be used within the same context as meeting family members!

la la la

she asked if she could come over sunday, i cleared the decks and rearranged the day and said yes..she left message on saturday saying she was too knackered after her flight and said she would call monday am to arrange for monday pm
... i am busy i have stuff to do i dont want to go she scares me and i dont like her

Ach, whatever happened to spontaneity?

Obviously, if you really are busy/tired/otherwise unavailable/scared then don't go, but what a shame to always close your ears eyes to sudden opportunity.

Well, it's one way of looking at it, but I don't like being called in such a way - makes me feel like a booty call!!

OP - I would agree with you it is a damn cheek! And acting hurt when you can't drop everything to run when he clicks his fingers?! (How old was he?)

He was young(ish) - 23, but still old enough to know better imo.

Some men are so late to reach maturity aren't they!

[eternal optimist]

I see your point about the "booty call", and if he's only calling you in hopes of a shag, of course you should tell him exactly where to go. But if it's, "Hey, I have an unexpected evening off, fancy ten-pin bowling?" or "The telly's crap tonight, how about a quick drink in the local?" there'd be no harm in giving it a go, surely?

[/eternal optimist]

Oh, no that would be ok. It was more along the lines of 'Everyone's going out but I don't feel like it - can you come over?'

Ah, in that case he's the eternal optimist.

How so? Are you sure you don't mean the eternal opportunist?

Arent all men this lol!!