Another Affair

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I have have just discovered my DP had an affair last year - it started after our honeymoon and ended 3 months later when I got pregnant, I only know this because he rushed out last night and left his email open, I had been feeling like something was wrong for a long time ( I would never normally look) anyway I found a history of emails from the 1st meeting until she left her job (they worked together) what upsets me more than anything is the way he spoke to her how affectionate he was, how much he wanted her and the plans they wanted to make together - he is adamant that it never went further than drinks and emails but I am not sure, I was so upset it is diffilcult to remember everything I read but I am sure he wanted it to work more than her and was asking her to dinner and to go to paris for 3 nights and they only split because I got pregnant and she went back to her bf but he says it was just flirting that got out of hand and that nothing happened, I can't imagine having to bring up our DS on my own but I hate my DP I don't think I could ever trust him again (he is out of the country every week for at least one night) I don't know what to do I can't even talk to him it is to painful and with xmas this week I am at a loss of what to do

When I rang the ow she had the cheek to say she didn't want to discuss it as she had "moved on from this relationship" - cheeky cow I doubt that, they had shagged only the week before.

Yep, she clearly has had time to move on whereas you're just finding all of this out. How convenient. I hope she feels like shit, although it is clear that your DH is the one who has to take the absolute brunt of this.

Will you tell him you contacted her?

Yes do what you think and want to do. I hit the OW first , then spoke to dh and then spoke to her. I wouldn't recomend the first one though. I found it better when I spoke to her after a couple of days of talking it through with dh because it had become clearer in my mind and I had regained some control back iykwim. Good luck

Yes do what you think and want to do. I hit the OW first , then spoke to dh and then spoke to her. I wouldn't recomend the first one though. I found it better when I spoke to her after a couple of days of talking it through with dh because it had become clearer in my mind and I had regained some control back iykwim. Good luck

I hit h - I would recommend that

just back online no response from OW - no big surprise!!! and yes DH more than taking full brunt - I don't feel anything towards her - just happy she isn't 20 and gorgeous!

Not going to tell him - not sure what I am going to do about anything... luckily I have my ds to keep me sane and distract me

Its our anniversiary tomorrow and party with old friends - I think I am going to have to go with him as too complicated not to but spend xmas apart

I know this sounds wierd but I keep forgetting and pretending everything is fine because I can't deal with it - does that sound mad?

Not really tbh - we all deal with these things differently. I went to a friends bday with h the day I found out. Didn't talk to him the whole time though.