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My sister announced her first pregnancy tonight. I am pleased for her, but a little envious too & not sure why!

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sillysister · 20/12/2008 21:30

Have 2 children of my own who are both at school now. They are handful enough for me, so why did I find myself feeling a little envious when my sister sprung the unexpected news that she was 3 months pregnant with her first child. I was of course happy for them & am excited about becoming an auntie for the first time, but part of me feels a bit jealous. I guess it is because it is all so exciting at this stage & the whole family are buzzing with it. She was looking at prams & mum was making copies of her scan picture on the pc & it was all exciting. I am a single mum & struggle with the two I have, so can't be broody myself. I don't understand the reason for these feelings of envy & feel terrible for having them. I showed nothing but excitement when around my family though.
Has anyone experienced similar feelings at a time like this? I have name changed because I am so ashamed!

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TheSeriousSanta · 20/12/2008 22:33

at Headfairy...

The food was lovely, the private room gorgeous, the peace and quiet wonderful, the attentive staff - I couldn't rate more highly...

The bill (my Dh will tell you) was rather irksome

If I'm lucky enough to have another, will def. go there again.. It's lovely.

sillysister · 20/12/2008 22:34

I had one of mine at the QEQM & it was awful!

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Pantofino · 20/12/2008 22:38

Sillysister, you're not wrong! The staff were lovely but the food was awful. I think I was there for just too long really, though post CS I actually paid for a private room.

sillysister · 20/12/2008 22:39

I didn't realise you had to walk to collect your food from their dining room thing, so went without any food at all after having DS!

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warthog · 20/12/2008 22:50

well i'm actually jealous of you feeling jealous! i have a 3 month old and i'd love to feel jealous of someone else having a newborn. god it's hard - and this isn't even my first!

Pantofino · 20/12/2008 22:53

Well post dd I was one of the little rooms all on my own. I realised after a while that if I did not get my arse out of bed, there would be no breakfast - and I was starving. How I managed it I do not know, but took me (hobbling), catheter and dd in plastic box thing all to the dining room to get a month's worth of rice crispies and toast.

sillysister · 20/12/2008 22:53

My youngest is nearly 6 so my memory has gone a bit fuzzy, warthog!

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frostyfrekkles · 23/12/2008 08:59

hey silly sister. Your thread really interests me as I think I might be experiencing what you are feeling from the perspective of the younger sister. I"m 5 months pregnant with my first, and my elder (by 4 years) sister has two already. She was the first person I told about my pregnancy, and I told her when I was 5 weeks. She reacted as you describe you feel, excited and supportive, but certainly broody, saying that she couldn't give me her baby stuff as she'd love another, offering to look after the newborn so I could go to glastonbury, ringing me up everyday to ask about everything, wanting scan photos.

I was initially very unhappy about the pregnancy as it was a big surprise at a very difficult time, so her excitement and support was great. But recently it's all gone weird. She told me about a month about that she's pregnant too. And she's 7 weeks behind me, which means she got pregnant after I told her that I was expecting. She has now totally changed her tune too, saying that she's devastated, had never wanted another baby, is disgusted at the whole idea and refuses to talk about the pregnancy atall. Which means I can't now talk about my pregnancy or be excited to her. She also gets very ill when she's pregnant and therefore is now the focus of my families concerns.

I feel really really weird. totally usurped and confused as to why she would do this? I'm presuming that when she heard I was pregnant broodyness took over, and she lost her mind for a while. And now that she's found it she's regreting it?

I'm trying really hard to look at the positives, like how nice it'll be for our babys to have a cousin so close in age. And that maybe we will bond over being in a similar position. But at the moment she's totally shutting me out. and I'm also really sad and angry and confused. Can you give me a better perspective?

frostyfrekkles · 28/12/2008 08:14

hey? bump? where did silly sister go?

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