Never a problem now is. How do we fix it?

[sadwife]

DH and I been together over 12 years. I had had other partners, he hadn't. We always had a really good friendship and even though I had hang ups about how I felt about sex (me wanting it, and why, and the reasons why I felt upset when he didn't) it really didn't seem important as our relationship wasn't based on that. We had a really strong friendship as well.

Had kids. Tired. Prefer to sleep and read. Both felt the same so no problems.

Now we have a problem. I am not getting what I want from him and feel rejected when he says no/can't do it and feel crap when I feel like I am begging.

I have been getting attention from elsewhere that can never be consummated and I want to feel that excitement with my husband. I love him so much.

How do we get that back?

sadwife2
cookiemonstress
DwayneDibbley

I just wanted to say thank you again for your support and understanding and give you hope for the future.

I had another very honest and open talk with DH last night and said we had got to the point of OF telling me dates he was free to to meet and had talked on the phone. He did get very angry with me later and got dressed to go out but I managed to get him to stay and we had a big hug. We talked some more and we made up properly.

I emailed the OF this morning telling him what had happened and said if he heard from me again it would be because I am free. That is what is keeping me from contacting him again though it will take a while before I manage to stop thinking about him and being teary.

I was scared about what DH was going to do last night and it made me realise that I really do want to be with him. I can't be without him.

Hang in there.

It can be better.