Lack of desire, hormones or something more serious wrong??

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I just don't fancy dh anymore and don't know what to do. It's never been a relationship where I can't get enough of him (although he feels that for me) and for the pmt weeks of the month I can't bring myself to get intimate with him. Non pmt weeks are better but since I've been pg it's been so hard (am now 10 weeks). Hormones have been raging so much that any interest I might have had has gone (maybe it was just interest in making a baby?) and I get so fed up I start thinking about whether this actually has a future.

Dh hasn't the best track record in being an active participant in the family which over the years has worn away at me, but does seem to be getting better finally. I do wonder whether it's too little too late though..

Is my lack of desire for him a symptom of something bigger wrong in our relationship? He's always wanted it much more than I do and the comments he makes show it's never that far from his mind.

How am I supposed to carry on for the next 30+ years like this?

Don't be to hard on yourself, early in pregnancy you have fatigue and worry.

Only you can know whether it is a bigger problem but maybe at the moment your not able to think about it logically.

Don't make any hasty decisions and perhaps you could talk to a close friend or relative that you trust.

Good luck.

Thanks. Spoke to the midwife today and she says it's highly likely it's hormones and that it will ease around 16 weeks.
Will hang fire and hopefully then things will seem much better!

I'm glad you were able to talk to someone, hope it all sorts itself out.