Hi there, I used to use this site alot and then just sort of stopped as my youngest got older. But I need help !!! .. so I hope you can all give me your opinion/advice. In a nutshell!, I was married for 12 years. My marriage started to go wrong about 3 years ago, we separated (now divorcing) 13 months ago. As we finished, I became close to a man, who I then fell very quickly and heavily in love with .. as did he. We had a year together, intense, emotional, with a fair amount of ups and downs. Early on in the year he was in a dilemma on whether to go travelling for a year .. house sold (cash in bank), job not working out etc .. he always argued if we were supposed to be, then 1 year out, would be nothing in the long run. So, after tears etc, I accepted it and stood by him and helped him prepare for the off (September). We stayed v. close the whole time, he took me on holiday, etc etc. We had an emotional goodbye, saying we would be together on his return and tried to keep our relationship alive, by text/phone etc. But we ended up arguing long distance and texting too much, he couldnt handle me going out etc and after 2 months he ended it, by saying he didnt know what he wanted anymore, he loved me but I was so far away and he should let me go .. we have just been in touch again after 6 weeks by text and he wanted to know if I was with anyone (In a joky way), he told me he had kissed no one, he just wanted me to be happy etc ... should I move on, or should I wait for him? I think about him all the time ... I dont know what to do anymore, he goes to Aus/NZ for 3 months in the ny and I just drive myself crazy with thinking about him with some one else ... all my friends think he is rotten keeping me by his side and then letting me go ... what should I do???????