overreacting DH

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Does anyone else's DP/DH often overreact? Perhaps I'm too laid back and calm about some things, but things will happen to me that I'll let pass, whereas DH will think it's a disaster.

One example is that he'll be heavy handed when the DC had tantrums when they were toddlers, or a minor gripe has to escalate to a slanging match, even when I don't join in!

This is slowly driving me crazy, but to have a chat with him about it iis difficult because he, well, overreacts

Oh yes. If you can manage (I can't and ususally end up snapping) just calmly say I am not arguing with you and then ignore or agree. It drives them to distraction but they give up in the end.

Have to admit there are times i find myself saying 'just ignore it' through gritted teeth but there are probably times he arrives home from work to find me at end of my tether (or as ds says 'in a fuss')

Thanks feedthegoat and seashells.

He's stormed off for a walk about something rather petty. I'm just tired of being with a bit of a drama queen at the mo. He is stressed about a lot of other things tbh, but it's hard to always be the grown-up sensible one, iyswim.

I know how you feel I am convinced that DH could start an argument in an empty room atm he is arguing with me because he is hungry and I was at work so he had no tea. I have told him he can use my debit card to order an Indian and he is still arguing with me

shesells - do we have the same DH? I'm going to bed, and he'd better not wake me up

This thread is so familiar!

As an example, my husband regularly can't find his keys and this escalates into the fact that he won't be able to use his car so he won't be able to get to work so he will lose his job so we won't have any money so we'll have to sell the house ..... by then I have found his keys which weren't far from where they should be and all is right in the world again!

Oh yes, lots of shared characteristics out there.

I tease my dh about him being on a very different place in the spectrum of personality that distinguishes between small details and the big picture. Basically, his big picture is entirely dominated by whatever small detail (for me) is annoying him at the time, eg barking dog, nasty smell, bad morning in the office (when he used to work). He's much better at recognising this than he used to be, but it still gets on my wick sometimes, especially when he just wants to walk out of a drama he's created with one of our ds.

My dd mentioned today that at school someone had said that now girls can marry girls and boys boys etc. She is 4.5 by the way. I said that was true. She was unfazed and said she was going to marry Michael with the sticky up hair when she grows up.

DH got all irrational about them teaching unnecessary things that would colour her view of the world. I pointed out that a) we don't WHO said this, and b) it was hardly going to have an effect on whether she was heterosexual or not. And muttered on about her being too young to know anything about sex. I said i would not force it but would certainly answer any questions she had as truthfully as possible given her age. Queue much huffing and puffing