What makes a good relationship, and what can save a failing relationship?

[Wonders]

Just wondering what peoples' views were on this. Discuss.

jabberwocky that was great- you should putit on a car sticker!

I agree Jabberwocky.

I'd say:

Never sleeping on a row
Saying sorry
Accepting - no body is perfect
Loyalty
Trust
RESPECT
Humour
Not taking the relationship for granted - ever
Keeping each other involved

..and saving a failing relationship

?? Finding the above again ??

It would be good on a bumper sticker - or maybe my morning coffee mug...

I think these things make a good relationship...

Trust
Honesty
Respect
Humour
Consideration
Common goals and approach to life
Selflessness
Communication
Commitment
Chemistry and, I agree with Snafu, va va voom

Our wedding vows included the line "I promise to give you the best of myself and ask no more than you can give".

But.... only a woman would say that stuff, a man loves all that, but doesn't label it, he says , i want her to shut up

as much as i would love to disagree with the last post...you couldn't have said it better....

HI All, trust is hard to build after catching your spouse. I had a horible experience with my mil who expected to destroy our marriage. I am the 3rd wife and found out how she destroyed the past 2 other marriages. When she told my spouse I hit her after I was watching her in the darkness of our kitchen hitting her own arm and getting these blood vessel pop ups. I confronted my spouse and he had told me mil said it was me I purchased a one way ticket back to Florida for her. Anyone making false aquisations cannot live in the same home as I. My mil lost everything due to a bad marriage and has been living off of her children @ 65 yrs of age. Now my military spouse is in the hospital and my spouse calls his mom before the surgery , my mil yells and swears at my spouse telling him why he didnt take her side and divorce me and called his exwife so she can bother him in the hospital. I am ready to give this marriage up due to having such horrible feed back because I sent my mil back home to her daughter. My mil has a sister in the same area who is retired and bought her a one way ticket to live with us in Hawaii. Why cant she take care of her own flesh and blood. The one brother in law this mil does not talk to is also living close by. I believe mil who lost everything want to attach themselves to the weakest children. I dont know what to do next. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

I think in an ideal world you are all right but.................

trust is tough to build easy to lose, chemistry fades and sometimes no matter how much you love someone you cant always say that you like them so i think the most important things long term are smaller then that. An ability to laugh together when life is really tough, still see each other as individuals and respect each others differences even over daft things like when to go to bed. The strength to work on it when sometimes its tough and sometimes knowing when and what to let go can help. Most importantly to me is friendship. My partner has to be my best friend and most trusted confidante. dont mean it aint hard and there are never rows, just that i want to go through when there are. I prefer personally to knwo someone is in my life cause i want them not need them as well.

florida........................hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm - i suppose choking the manipulative old bat on an orange is out of the question at the mo??? Sorry not trying to be flippant but not really sure what to suggest. Start a seperate thread with a clear heading and believe me you will get some good advise!!!!!!! I hope things get better fr you soon sweet.