am i reading to much into this?

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Picked up dhs phone this morning to check a text i had sent to a friend from his phone yesterday as i couldnt remember what time i had told her i would be round.

Saw that he had sent a message to one one the bloke he plays american football with and it said "let it be know that if toms mrs wants a better option, im open to offers."

Now im assuming tom must be one of the other football lads. This has really really riled me and im not sure if i am totally over reacting. It is obviously a very blokey culture and im sure he probably ment nothing by it other than trying to be funny.

Its upset me a bit for two reasons though, weve not been getting on as well recently mostly arguing about money and also the las he plays with are all 18-22ish so am assuming said mrs id probably also young (having said that im only 24 so hardley old) and certainly not tired grummpy and sagging from having a baby.

I guess what im wondering is do i just wirte this off as silly blokeyness or do i need to talk to him?

excuse poor poor typing please!

I would talk to him but I it doesnt sound like he has done anything more than have a joke with a friend,

I would ask him what offers he would be open to - but in a jokey way. And say you read it when you were trying to find your text. Laugh it off but let him know that you know, if you see what I mean.

Sounds like you are feeling insecure when actually you should be feeling really proud of yourself for producing your (both of you) baby.

And you are allowed to be tired and grumpy when you have a newborn.

I think I'd just say I happened to come across the txt and I know it's prob you just being blokey but it hasn't impressed me so could you just mind what you're saying in future and bear my feelings in mind.

Thanks guys thats what i thought! and yes thinking about it NDTHW there has probably been many a throw away comment not suited to dh ears.

Feel better now, think ill take throckens advise and let him know i know but in a piss taking fasion.

sounds like a joke. i wouldn't put it down to "dumb blokey machoness" as you see the same sort of comments from women on here and i doubt they are afflicted by said disease.

as has been said, it's a throw away joke to a mate which i doubt he even remembers writing at this stage let alone is conspiring to have an illicit affair with toms mrs. having already told his friend about it (who is presumably also toms friend)

Just a joke, light hearted bloke chat i think. He wouldn't be jesting about it if he was serious.

Your DH won't realise you feel sagging and unattractive after your baby, they never do!