Am I dealing with this in the right way. Had a huge row with my mum a few weeks ago, didnt speak for 5 weeks.
Last week we spoke for the first time (i made the first move, she said she didnt ring because she didnt know how I'd be, but obviously expected me to), and she rang again this morning, asked about the kids etc.
Having read another thread I am now convinced she is a narcissistic (sp?) parent. Some of the stuff was quite shocking to read and I cant believe this is what Ive been dealing with all my life.
She rung again shortly after asking if I would still do her online shopping (my step father is too ill to do it on his own, and she maintains she cant do it because its too hard). I have no problem doing her shopping and said 'yes thats fine just ring me when you want it doing', to which she replied 'only I thought you might have offered, and said 'mum do you want me to do your shopping' but you didnt'
this sent alarm bells ringing and I replied 'but you want the shopping doing not me, you are quite capable of asking me, but again yes I am happy to do it'.
She went all quiet and funny, am I wrong to think this was manipulative or am I just looking too much into it. This is classic behaviour from her e.g. 'i thought you would ring', 'I thought you would ask' as if placing the blame on me for not asking IYKWIM