I am absolutely dreading christmas this year. Last year, before the birth of my dd, I got on fine with my oh's mum and her husband. However as soon as she as born, his mother turned into a nightmare! She was obsessed with my dd, turning up for 5 hours a day to 'keep me company' when I had just given birth. I had to run around after her making tea etc whilst she just cuddled my baby all day. She kept making comments about my 'baby weight' from about 2 weeks after I had her. The pair of them were thouroughly annoyed that I wouldnt let them look after her at 3 weeks old (and exclusively bf) for more than 3 hours and were 2 hours late bringing her home because they couldnt get her in the car seat
They both used to snatch her off me, and whilst she has stopped doing this, he hasnt, its like a compulsion that he has to take her off me about 5 times per visit. He is very controllng. I also worry about the food they feed her. At 3 months she fed her a jar of baby food and ice cream when I wasnt there even though I had told them she wasnt weaned yet. They feed her whole grapes and peanut butter despite choking/ allergy risk. The list goes on. This is my daughters first christmas, I wanted to spend it at home but he was amused said we have no table and our house is too small, therefore we are spending it at theirs, ie, on their terms. I get on much better now with mil and I feel a lot of her behaviour is down to him, but I cant stand it. Today he told my dd off and made her sob,(she is nearly 1!!)What do I do, I am really not looking forwards to christmas! I have tried being assertive, but then they get all huffy and moody.