I'm falling apart here I just need some support (sorry sob story alert)

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After 7.5years and a lot of trying I think we are over how do I dealw ith this I just feel like it's the end of the world but I know its for the best!

oh no,not sure of what has been happening or your history.

do you feel up to talking about it?

jen
xx

Let him go and try not to spend too much time with him, and allow yourself to grieve and heal.

Sorry am just sitting sobbing away just needed someone to talk too, my 2.5YO is just eating his dinner and this is really killing me.

Well basically we have been togeher since we were 14 always been quite close, since our son was born we have always argued about money, lack of communication the usual things really but now he has moved onto my lifestyle and friends.

I am 22 we moved area hundreds of miles away from where we were. My only friends here are my 17YO cousin and his 17YO friend who are both gay. We have a drink on a saturday night which DP hasd never had a problem with etc, but last night we went out for a night out (my first in years) and got a bit worse for wear and enjoyed ourselves we got back to mine at 3am and MIL was staying so she was in our bed and we were in livingroom sleeping and apparently we were being really loud which we were definately not! His mother is really ignorant she left without even saying bye to me this morning and has been sending me threatening messages all day I have just been ignorin her she seems to have the mental age of a 3YO IMO.

Anyway tonight phoned partner and asked him if he was coming home for tea he said no he was ata friends that was fine then started shouting and bawling at me for being an unfit mother, being an immature cow and apparently drinking too much. Now if he goes to his friends they drink a litre of vodka between them and he comes in starts fights with me or whatever I just cant do it anymore.

It really is for the best too split but it's so hard I dont think its worth trying anymore. Hes saying he will take our son if I put him out and that terrifies me, he has no reason to do this! I have PND and my house isnt tidiest no I know that, But I really dont feel I can do more than I do he says though to cut the crap and save my sob story for someone who cares

But then in the next breath talking about how we can sort things out I just cant Im so tired of arguing and tired of the drinking jst tired of it all. I dont think Im strong enough to say no though I just dont know if I can stick to my guns and actually split up, its so hard how do I stick to my guns, how do I stay strong and most of all how do I make sure my son is first through all of this I dont want it to affect him more than it has too.

Sorry for wittering just had t get it out.

Ahhh babes. Its sounds a horrible horrible situation.

Big hugs sending out to you on the interweb.

I think the best way forward for you is to step away from the situation for a while to have some time to think about what it best for you and your little one.

Could you go stay with a relative or friend? Just getting out of the hothouse that is your home and your relationship right now could help you think more clearly.

You ultimately know the best decision for you. What you know so far is that as it is right now, the relationship is no good for you. So your options are to leave or to both makes changes and work it out. Just make sure you don't end up just putting up with it as is, if you see what I mean. You'll just end up back in the same place.

This could be the right time to finally make changes in your life (with or without him) which, although horrible to go through right now, will mean that in six months or a year's time you will look back and be glad that this was all brought to a head so you could move on.

I really do feel for you, I think alot of us have been in a place like this, its horrible. It will get better though babe. Stay strong, I have a feeling, from the way you have written about putting your son first, that you are indeed strong and will make the right choice.

Duke

xxx