Moving on from the does oral sex amount to adultery, does texts amount to adultery??

[Jazzicatz]

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emotional infidelity can be horrible, destructive and hurtful

BUT getting nekkid with someone else crosses much more of a boundary i think

i have had a few saucy texts with male friends in my time (have changed name)...one of them led on to male friend trying to kiss me one evening when i went out with work colleagues - it scared the shit out of me - haven't done it since.

It depends on what is said and the intent behind it. Very difficult to judge but very destructive in any case.

IMO Adultry is "the breaking of a basic trust by sexual behaviour with another". I.E. it is to be judged by your own yardstick. Some people will lose the trust when finding someone texting flirtatious messages, others would need to catch their partner "in the act".

I would be devestated if my DH was to swap texts of a flirtatious nature with another woman. I would not do that him and I expect him not to do that to me either. For us, it would be going too far.

It's going too far but I'm not sure it is adultery. It's definitely a betrayal of some kind but not actually adultery.

The guide for me, is anything you would not want your partner to find out about.

So if you think texting is not adultery, ask yourself if you would show your partner your texts. If you would and it wouldn't bother them, then fine. If you would hide your activities from them, why? Why don't you want them to know? Oh yes, that's right - cos it's cheating!!!!

no.

it's flirting unless anything actually happens, imo.

It's the first possible step towards adultery. Flirting, texting, secret nights out are all done before leading up to sex. Nobody usually has sex with another partner before some or all of these things are done. How far do you want it to go?