Really want your honest opinions here, girls (and boys, too, for that matter).
DH has just come home and told me that he has unexpectedly been awarded a bonus for last year of £3,750 (before tax)- very nice, as you can imagine. But before I can start spending it (in my mind at least), he tells me that last year he promised the rest of his team that he would share any bonus he received with them. (Swears he told me at the time, but I have no memory of this). His argument is that they don't receive any kind of bonus, so he feels it is appropriate to share his bonus with them. He plans to give £1000 of it away in total to 7 people. (£200 each for 3 of them, £100 each for the other 4).
My reaction? I am absolutely fuming. He loves his work, which makes him very fortunate, but he also puts a lot of time and effort into it, sometimes at the expense of his family (same old story, I know). The company has, for whatever reason, decided to only award bonuses to managers at his level, and I think that that reflects the fact that he has the ultimate responsibility, and it is his work, (obviously with the backing of his team) that has led to the sucess of his part of the business, and hence the bonus. He is actually at work for approximately 45 hours per week, but then usually has work to do on his days off, and is constantly making or receiving phone calls from his team when he's not there to advise / help them do their jobs. He also has to go away for about 4 days a month (not much compared with some, I know, but not really part of his job).
Maybe I'm just stingy, but until this money came along, we weren't planning on having a family holiday this year, as we're on a bit of an economy drive at the moment, and now we could do that and pay off some debts with the money. I feel if we had £1000 less of it, then something would have to go, and the debts shout louder than the holiday. It just makes me feel that yet again, work is coming before family.
Things like this have happened to him when he was lower down the ladder, and he just shrugged and said "my turn will come". And now it has, and he wants to give it away. And it's not like he needs to buy the popularity of these people - they all like and respect him already anyway.
I know we always teach our kids to share, but this feels like one step too far for me. I have suggested that he takes them all out for a slap-up meal somewhere nice instead.
Please tell me what you think - am I being a spoilt brat?