after trying for ages to make make thngs work with dh i finally gave up a couple of months ago and moved out to stay with xp. xp and i are having a relationship (dh just thinks i'm staying as friends). I se dh every weekend to drop off ds. dh didn't want me to go but also put up no fight when i said i was going, during the 5 weeks i've been away he hann't aksed me to come back but has said he misses me, still loves me and wants things work. Until a week or so ago i thought i'd done the right thing and getting back with xp was right but i'm now doubting things. Dh has aspergers (but won't admit it). out counsellor told me she could see he has it (she also works with aspergic children). The knowledge that he has this, makes it easier to understand some of dh;s behaviour (being insular, uncommunicative, saying inappropriate things etc) but there are stil other things which he refused t change, Eg, we slept separately for the last 2/3 yrs bcos of his snoring (doc told him to lose weight but he didn't) and also virtually no sex for years I stopped feeling that way as i never felt he was interested and some of the things he's said to me in arguments have upset me so much that i felt too exposed even being naked in front of him.
However he' s a fantastic dad to our 2yo ds, is very unselfish with money, time , does alot round the house etc and part of me misses him so much now.
DP had been great with ds but he'll never be his dad. He's very different to dh - gentle (wouldn'ttever hurt me emotionally or physically) . He also fancies me and make me feel atrtactive.
Why could i be considering going back to dh?