"Scared of milk squirting" - breastfeeding vs my sex life

[DeathByMonkey]

Our baby is 6 months now and we haven't had sex since he was conceived. Up til now I haven't really minded but now I'm starting to think about it more and more. I had imagined that my husband had been valiantly quashing the urge and was patiently waiting for me to give him the green light, but we talked about it last night, and a very enlightening conversation it was too.

Basically, he finds the whole idea of bf, although obviously a beautiful and natural act, a complete turn-off, and thinks he will have a hard time feeling turned on by my boobs while they are still in, shall we say, production mode. Also, and I had no idea about this, when we started having sex again after our last baby, and I'd stopped bf at 4 months, well apparently I was still lactating and he tasted some milk and was completely shocked and turned off.

I really want to bf this baby up to one year, but I don't know if I can forfeit my sex life for that long. Has anyone else been in this situation? Do most blokes feel this way about bf or is mine particularly squeamish? He hasn't said he won't shag me until I stop bf, but rather has been very honest and said it may be a problem that he'll try and work past. I guess as well I'm feeling a bit gutted as it has been so long, I thought he would be rampantly waiting to rip my clothes off, not feeling quietly turned off by my current state.

Also be aware that the longer you go, the less likely you are to actually squirt if you know what I mean.

I have been feeding for more than 2 years now and stopped having let down at orgasm at about 9ish months, once DS1 started taking significant amounts of solids.

The milk was obviously still there but it wasn't quite so intrusive!! So you may find it's not such a problem once your baby weans a bit.

another one in the DH likes it camp here.

But as others have said, just keep him away from your norks, and concentrating on other areas ]

Am still bf DS2 at nearly 2 years - no leaks here and no problems with DH touching (although was a bit wary for the 1st few months).

I am totally back to normal so it's not an issue but it never has been one really with either DS.

The sexiest maternity/nursing bras are here from Agent Provocateur. Really expensive but they do come with an expander for the band so you can (in theory) wear them after you stop feeding when you return to normal size. and they are fab - very comfy and feel almost like normal undies!

Re squirting, I am probably more self conscious about it than I need to be, like other DH's, mine just seems grateful for any sex he gets, squirty or not!

You could wear Anne Summers gear for getting jiggy, it doesn't have to have nursing catches!!

My DP is indifferent, he has inadvertantle tasted my milk in the past, but to be honest I'm not keen on nipple-play when I'm bf, don't mind the rest of my boob being touched etc, just not the nipple, so it's not a huge issue!

Stop worrying about it and jump him in a foxy bra, ultimately boobies are for babies, but that doesn't mean you can't have fun too.

you don't have to forfeit you just have to work out what works for everyone.

I have 2 children my OH has 3

my first wasn't BF and neither were my OH's

our last one is exclusivly

intially it was a bit oo err especially as I have quite forceful fountains if I get a bit excited
so we just know when I get a bit warm over the nipple then it's gonna go oce it's psssssssssssss ed it's done and unless he really plays nothing else leaks mostly I keep my bra on sometimes especially if I've just fed they feel normal and we can be people for a short time.
But that's just being a parent fun comes when the shit is outta the way.

To be quite honest and sorry I feel a bit mean saying this ...
but it's great he's honest enough to say this but he really ought to grow up a bit
but it's really quite selfish.

and if you've not shagged since conception then it's more than BF surely